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writes:Okay so here it goes, I fell in love when I was 15 - extremely young i know, The boy was 17 and told me that he'd never been in love before and that i was the only one for him and he'd always love me. Well when he went to college we lost contact and he got a girlfriend however he broke up with her because he said that he still loved me and it wasnt fair-to my delight as my love for him never went away. We started talking again and ended up going out on a few dates and i knew as stupid as it sounds that this person was the only one for me. However we lost contact again after a while because a rumour was spread about me and one of his friends which was totally untrue. When I was seventeen i'd heard rumours that he wasnt a nice person and treat girls like crap, Id also heard he had chlymidia twice and had cheated on his last girlfriend. I couldnt believe it though he was my boy how could he act like this?Two months ago i saw him at a club and asked to talk to him , at first he was nice but kept touching me and making suggestions. I told him that i still had feelings for him and that i couldnt get them away how hard i tried but he didnt seem to listen and kept touching me when i pushed him off again he called me a pathetic bitch who was too scared to be touched. I started to cry and he apologised and he said that if he wanted me to believe that i loved him i would have to prove it. So stupidly i did, i thought somehow that this would make it all right. He said he loved me but afterwards told me he didnt want a relationship but we could be friends with benefits. I feel dirty disgusting and absolutely ashames and upset that everythig is destoryed now and we can never have what we used to both want. I want to help him beacuse he never used to be like this, this is pathetic but i feel like i mourning the death of the person he uysed to be because that nice loving person is totally gone. I want to hate him so much but i cant he has my heart and im scared that im never going to be over him as this has been on and off for five years ! Is it too late to put everything right ?
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reader, natureboy227  +, writes (24 March 2010):
Character is dynamic and can change at anytime.A good person in his or her adolescent stage is not called "good one" because he never experienced the realities of life before.
Love is give and take and not express without impress.
Be careful and don't let your heart deceive you.A good person never insult the woman he shares bed with. He is a player and not ready to settle down with you. whenever you lost contact with each other, then you are forgotten but as soon as he sees you then his mind is filled with lust(sex) and not your happiness. If you don't take caution, he will do the same thing to you as he did with other girls.
The best thing for you to do is to control your feelings for him and stay away from him for sometime. He truly loves you he will look for you....
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 Sorry to say this but please dont waste your time on him, he is out to use you and is not interested in being your friend, he does not love you and is not in love with you.
If you did stay with him then its very unlikley love will develop from his side for you even if you fall for him. He will most likley cheat on you at some point in the future.
You can do a lot better for yourself and find a boyfriend who truly appreciates you for who you are and not what you can give him.
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