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writes:I am a 40 y/o guy and I find myself attracted to much younger women...like 18 to 25. I am currently a grad student at UW and I am always thinking about dating girls in my classes. I feel like a creepy old guy alot. I am attractive (so I am told), I certainly look much younger, I am in the best shape of my life, wear clothes that are in style, and enjoy goofing off when I am not studying...as such, I still feel 19. So what gives, am I crazy or is feeling this way just wrong? I just don't see 40 as "old". I live in the Seattle area and it seems like people are not accepting of age gap relationships. You would think a place like Seattle would be more accepting. Anyway, does anyone have thoughts? Also, is there a place online where younger women actively seek older men? I guess I would like to find like minded people...Thanks!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): That's isn't that bad... I'm thirteen and my boyfriend is 39... I don't see anything wrong with it... Just respect the girl, my boyfriend don't really respect me, like we've been dating for a month, and I've done everything including sex... He didn't really give me a choice... :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): Age difference doesn't matter at all. My husband is 23 years older than me.At the beginning of your relationship it is thrilling, after being together for a few months the thrill wears off and you began to question whether a more meaningful relationship could be feasible. Then you decide that it can, then you discover that you're in love, and don't want to live without each other. Then you get married, and have children many years later, because your wife is many years younger than you. Next thing you know, you're a 50 year old man with a 5 year old son, and people are asking you in the supermarket if it's your first time being a grandfather. Relationships with big age differences can work, but be careful. Before getting too serious, I would advise sitting down and thinking about your long-term goals and what you really want out of life.
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reader, sam2500 +, writes (15 June 2010):
sam2500 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Touche'...there are always a few bits of datum that skew. Appears we both fall into that category ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): Hmmmm, interesting.
Now that I think about it, the things you mentioned about women "our" age also applies to men who are 40+.
Most are divorced with kids, tied down with a mortgage and child support so they can't travel. Balding. Haven't seen the inside of a gym in years. Think bowling on Tuesday instead of Wednesday is "adventurous", LOL.
I totally understand why dating someone with fewer issues is appealing. I would consider dating younger men for the same reason, but there is a reason younger women don't want them and they'd have even less to offer someone in my position.
Ah, well. My search continues for the elusive unicorn--a childless, never-married, middle-aged man who does not live with his mama (or his best buddy from high school), loves to explore the world and is interested in someone closer to his age.
FYI--I have no children. I am self-employed, earning my second masters degree (MBA), and often told I look ten years younger than I am. Just wanted to let you know that all of us old broads are not straddled with kids or emotional baggage. Some of us are actually pretty cool. :-)
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reader, sam2500 +, writes (14 June 2010):
sam2500 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust following up...I am the original poster of the question. First, thanks so far to those that have responded.
To the woman who asked about being attracted to women my age...The closest I have dated to my has been about 8 years younger. So I guess the answer would be no. Its not that women my age aren't attractive. Most women my age either have children already or they are set in their routines. My research sends me all over the world and I am just not a 9 to 5, dinner by 6, snd to bed by 9 kinda guy. I find dating someone with fewer...shall we say.."requirements" is more appealing.
To the person that asked for my opinion on the reverse...email me if you would like to discuss it in detail. I would prefer to keep this post on focus...
Anyway, keep sharing your thoughts here or privately if needed...thanks so much ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): im only attracted to older guys apart from my first boyfriend all the guys ive dated are older(the oldest was 37 ) and v.clever it depends on the girl i go for older guys because im more mature than most of my peers also to be honest i find them more attractive . my family dont like the age gap but the way i see it its my life 2 lead not thers
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): sorry i meant to say he is 20 years older than me lol. so he is 46 years old.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): i am 26 years old, and i like a man who is 20 years old than me. i dont think he know what he wants though, even though he likes me. he has been a bachelor all his life, so i guess it might be hard for him to have a relationship. i really care about him though. we met in a club and he chatted me up first so it worked !. we did have interference from my family though, as he has been friends with some of my family for a long time, and they know about his past, which, wasnt good. However, as long as it is in the past, i would be willing to have a relationship with him. do you have any advice for me too, perhaps ?. i dont see anything wrong with age gaps as long as you get on well with someone and trust them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Are you at all attracted to women your own age? I'm 38 and it seems all of the men in my age group want 18-25 year olds, so I'm just curious about this. It looks like I'm going to have to start dating men in their 50s since middle-aged men don't want middle aged women!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): I'm dating a 40 y/o guy, it's amazing.
There are gaps in our knowledge and life experience but were really really sexually attracted to each other so for now it doesn't even matter!! In the long run it might be a bit harder but for now it's all good
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