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*uriousLady
writes:Many years ago I was involved with this guy who I really cared for a lot. To make a long story short.. He had to go away for a bit in the army and he wrote me a couple of letters. During that time I later married and had a child moving out of the county and later moving home. We all live in a small town so evidently I seen him and we remained friends.. You could still tell the interest was there. Or at least I believed it was. During all this time he is the type that had to have a sidekick, So he married his sidekick.. And I do believe that he has never loved her like a married couple loves.. I think he just needed her there.. Well anyway, I got a divorce and later was aiming for my second marriage when he suggested I not marry the guy..... Well now to present day, I married the loser and he left me and has been gone for over 8 months... I am trying to get my life back together because the guy I recently married did all but destroy it... Well I have been keeping myself holed up at home all the time. One day there is a knock on my door and it is the guy from many years ago.. We talk for hours. He let me talk to him, he didn't judge me, honestly it was as if he was my best friend and soul mate. I brought up the wife but he is constantly wanting everything to remain all about me. I feel that his feelings for me are still there. As each day would pass he would come over and do things with me and spend time doing things with my child. I asked him to not let my child get too close to him because i dont want him hurt. However, I have gotten close and I know he isnt mine to get close to.. He calls me every nite to check on me.. I have found myself falling back in love with him. So what do you suggest I do...? I dont want him to stop calling or stop coming to visit. If I dont talk to him I get very depressed. However, I get depressed because I know he isn't mine.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 If you don't want him to stop calling or stop coming to visit you ,then make him yours.
If he is coming to you ,it means that he has no more love for his wife. It would be only a matter of time before he divorces his wife.
Let nature takes its course.
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