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writes:Hi,Im really confused right now. The guy I wanted to marry wasn't trying hard enough. Our culture is a little diff. The parents didn't approve. we sitill stayed together but he isnt trying...if i ask him to try hes like...yes ill try my best...but now i just think..wats the point with such an awful mom in law...and the fact that he wants to LIVE WITH HIS PARENS ahh...my friend met him for the first time and said that i cud do better THAT REALLLY STUCK IN ME cuz i thought iluved this guy but then..wen she said that i thought to myself..well...maybe?!? see, hes not that funny and witty....annnd recently I met this guy...who went to MIT (not that I care..well its impresive) and hes REALLY FUNNY like witty funny...just seems like an interesting person..i only talked to him once but im kinda still with this guy...and hes doing this nice big surprise bday for me...and he told me he wants to "tell me something" (he hasent said the L word yet) but do i want him to now? I mean I love him but...i guess im over thiking him now...hes an amazing guy but the whole future thing and him being unsure of us being together forever relaly bothers me...he shud be determined for me...but its this conflict btwn parents and me (he wants to respect both) ITS PART OF THE CULTURE (we are pakistani muslims) So what should i do? should I talk to this interesting new guy (JUST TALK) he lives so far away from me...so it wudnt b more than that...and can i still b with this guy? or is that cheating? I mean im just talkking to this guy as a frriend...idk wat to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): You deserve to be the best. If he knows you would like living with his mom yet doesn't want to do anything, then you are not the first.If you break up with him, I don't think you should start a new relationship immediately. You might get a rebound relationship if you do so.If it is true love between you and the new guy, being friends for the time being won't hurt much.If you plan to hold it with the current guy, keep a distance with that friend.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 July 2008):
Well if you don't love your guy then you need to break it off with him. The fact he won't even move out from home after he's married when he knows you don't get on with his mum says to me he's not going to put you first.
As for the new guy, be his friend and see where it goes. There is no harm in being single for a while.
Good Luck!! xx
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