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writes:okay well a friend of mine has been obsessed with this guy for nearly two years now, and i know he doesnt like her like that (because i am also a friend of his) the last few weeks ive really fallen for him, and i told him how i felt last night and i was on webcam to him and he just beamed at me for ages =)does this mean he likes me too? hes quite shy and inexpirianced so if he did I dont think he'd straight up tell me. But is he totally off limits even tho he doesnt like my friend? what shall i do ahh! im always sacrificing my happiness for other peoples, so should i screw it and be happy for a change?help would be appreciated - lots!xx
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reader, stina  +, writes (14 May 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
If it's been two years and your friend has yet to make a move on him, then I don't really see a problem with you and the guy getting together. In my opinion - and everyone's different - if she really wanted to be with him, she would have acted on it by now. And if he liked her, then I would think he would have said something by now, as well. But he shows an interest in you and you obviously like him.
In my opinion, there's a difference between being "obsessed" with someone and truly liking someone for who they are. Has your friend even talked with this guy? How does she know she really likes him? Maybe she just thinks he's hot? It sounds like you and the guy have actually talked and gotten to know one another - which is much different. You two mesh on a completely different level if this is the case.
If she's really your friend, then I think she would get over this obsession/crush that she has and remain friends with you.
Actually, someone posted a question on here from your friend's viewpoint. Maybe you'd want to read that for some more input, as well: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-continue-talking-to-my-friend-even.html
Hope this helps. Like I said, everyone's different. But it sounds like you really like this guy and he likes you, and if nothing has happened in two years between your friend and him then I don't see why you two shouldn't get together. That's just my take on it.
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reader, Broken14  +, writes (14 May 2007):
if your have any respect or even care for your friend in the slightest way you will stay away from this guy!!! just imagine how you would feel if you were in your friends position and she did that to you!! if you go for this guy you loose your friend without a doubt.
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