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writes:I am 22 years old as well as my girlfriend well ex girlfriend now. We have know eachother sense we were 12 and started dating when we were 15. our relationship was great until the last year of it there was a serious lack of affection and intamacy on her part. she knows this and said she just doesnt have any feelings of affection and nothing left to give to our relationship. I couldnt end the relationship no matter how unhappy i was and let this go on. 2 weeks ago we got into another fight about physical attention and how miserable we both are and had a long talk about what to do and where this is going once and for all. we both finally understood eachother and things looked bright. valentines day was the next week and things were not really getting better. she set up valentines day so that we shared it with her parents instead of a intimate night together and she didnt get me anything while i got her one of the nicest card she has ever recieved so she said and gifts on top of that. with all that said i went out that night with friends and was drunk and i met a girl at the bar and we ended up going home together but didnt go any further than kissing. this girl was 28 and seeking a relationship from me which made me feel good because of the lack of attention i was getting. a few days go by and suddenly my relationship with my girlfriend becomes better than ever like she had this sense of what i had done. i felt so bad and sent a email to the girl a had cheated with and told her i can no longer see her again and i am not over my exgirlfriend(should of said girlfriend but didnt)anyway my girlfriend found this email and brought it to my attention and i tried to lie and she believed me at first but then she emailed the girl and she told her everything. the lying is what she is most upset about. once she found it out and realized i cheated and lied to her face she has blocked my phone number and all connection with me. i dont know what to do i sent flowers she has refused them. i lied because i didnt want to risk losing what was becoming a great relationship again. How to i ask for forgivness? will she ever talk to me again? i would hate to lose her after 6 years over this
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (28 February 2010):
 You should have thought about the repercussions before you went home with another girl. Six years thrown down the drain because you were selfish and stupid and lied on top of it.
Funny how stuff turns out when you are only thinking about yourself, huh? You could have broken up but you didn't. Then you act like its you who are hurt...Give me a break
Don't blame booze on it either. You made a conscious decision like all cheaters do. You put your own relationship at risk by YOUR ACTIONS!
Own your actions like an adult!
A six year relationship is an audition for marriage and a life together. and be turning out to be a cheater and a liar you failed miserably
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): Give her time, I think she is very hurt by all this and just needs some time to figure out what she really wants.Keep trying to talk to her about what happened and emphasise that you want to be only with her
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