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writes: i currently go to college in the uk and there's this girl in my class. i liked her from the moment i saw her but i then found out that she had a boyfriend. So i tried to not look at her, in that way. a few weeks before christmas she was telling people in our class that he wasn't a very good bf as they hadn't spoken for five days. anyway about 2 weeks before christmas she broke up with him and i am still very interested in her. My friend is having a birthday party in a few weeks and she'll most likly be there and i believe that i should try and ask her out but someone told me that she may not want a relationship this soon after her break up. what do i do?do i ask her out at the party and if i get rejected so what?do i wait a few weeks/months before i make my move?what do i say to her to get her intrested in me?what do i wear to this party as i want to look casual?and finally.....what should my body language be like? do i look at her as soon as i walk in etc...thank you to everyone in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust so everyones clear i am talking about asker her out at the party as she's already been invited
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reader, Noraa +, writes (5 January 2011):
Well, first of all, the worst thing that can happen is that she doesn't say 'yes.' Don't take that personally. I would try becoming her friend at the party, casually talking about classes and other light hearted topics. If she shows signs of interest in you then you could ask her if she would be interested in going on a date. Tell her there's no pressure, and no hard feelings if she says 'no', even if your reeling inside.
As for what to say: Casual topics: Classes, weather,films, literature. A good idea is to look and see what classes she's signed up fro and what her free time is spent doing. Oooh yeah, ask her about hobbies.
Flirting topics: outfit, look, eyes, family (treat this cautiously) and idea of a perfect date. Get inspiration!
Wear jeans, a t-shirt (preferably a clean one), a blazer jacket, smart shoes/ trainers (personal taste) and wash your hair, shave, use deoderant keep your head high and smile the night away.
Body behaviour- look for other friends first, then smile/ wave at her before going over to her a few minutes later. If she is surrounded by her friends then WAIT. You don't want to have a giggling group of girls wrecking your time with her.
Good luck!!!
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