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writes: Yesterday my boyfriend of a year told me he just wanted to be single. We had just come back from spending a perfect weekend in Wales with his grandparents. When we had got home he wanted to invite his friend out with us but I saidI didn't want him to and put my foot down. He then began to tell me he didn't want a girlfriend any more. He does still love me and I know he is hurt it is over but I don't know what to do with myself. I love him so much and I don't want anybody else ever. I am only 18 and he is 19, I know that young love never lasts, but I really wanted this one to work. The only reason why he is finishing with me is because he wants to see more of his mates. I tried to say make things work by telling him he could have more freedom but he was certain he wouldn't change his mind. He told me to keep the same number and he will come looking for me. But what do I do till then? I'm so hurt and confused I don't want to lose the best thing that had ever happened to me. Please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2005): Whatever you do, don't go crawling back to him because we both know there are better people out there for you. But to let you know I'm 14-years-old and I know a lot of people that go through this and I told them what I told you and they are happy.
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reader, rainandclouds7 +, writes (10 May 2005):
I have learned that what guys like the most is when a girl is at least a little independent. Just try hanging out with some friends of your own and maybe see if he will let you join him and his friends. I know its hard, but if you can pick yourself up and show him how independent you can be and how good of a friend you can be, you never know he may change his mind. Don't get discouraged on time though, guys have really stronge emotions even if you can't see it and since he loves you and you love him it has to be worth waiting for. Good Luck.
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reader, angelus +, writes (9 May 2005):
instead of sitting around waiting for him to come back what you should do is go out and enjoy life your only 18 instead of having just him you need other things in your life if he does come back make sure he isnt the centre of your world that you have a life outside of him proving to him that yous dont have to live in each others pockets yous can still be together but have interest outside of each other a healthy relationship needs more than just two people loving each other you need interests outside of him and he needs more than just you prove to him and yourself that you are not going to try to keep him all to yourself then if its meant to be he will be back and if its not there are plenty of other options out there and you are young enough to explore them i know it hurts i have been there myself but having a life seperate to his really got me through the hard times dont hide away and wait for him to come crawling back get out there enjoy life and hopefully he will realise what he is missing dont try to keep him to yourself you have to have more than each other good luck.
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reader, broken hearted and beautiful +, writes (9 May 2005):
Hey don't feel so responsible. If he wants his friends let him have them. He is the loser here not you. You ask what you should do until he calls? Go out and have fun. it may seem that your world has fallen apart but as you say young love and all, dont wait for him cos he may never call, if he does Bonus. Go out and let him see you are beautiful and loving and i'm sure he won't be the only one who notices.
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