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writes: How can I get my boyfriend to quit being so "lazy" about our relationship? I know about the "now that he has me he can stop trying" thing that men do, but what can I do to get him to try as hard as he did when he first was pursuing me? Reply to this Question
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (21 November 2005):
 i agree with "anonymous from 20th november" play hard to get but make yourself tempting, maybe get dressed in something sexy while his watching tv and walk around the house and do your own thing, his bound to want you bad, i did this with my boyfriend when i felt he was not giving me any attention, and it worked like a charm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2005): Ok heres how it goes down. Just because he's being lazy about the relationship dont give up hope you don't be lazy about it at all. Never give up. Just be very exciting and always want to be with him give him random gifts, call him, if you tell him you love him whisper it in his ear. Tell him to give you piggy back rides. Of course give him space to hang out with his friends and such but dont back off. In a way push him and don't give him a chance to be lazy. FIGHT GIRL!!! make him want you like every minute of every day. MAKE him in a way want to try i guess make your relationship feel very fun and exciting and trust me he WILL want to be with you and will pick the peices back up again. Just be the greatest girlfriend you can be just wait he will come around!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2005): I wonder how much effort you are putting into pursuing him now? You dont say how old the relationship is but it seems he has moved on to the next level and you havent. In the beginning of a relationship you are both on best behaviour and trying to impress each other but you can't carry on like that forever, its too false. For a relationship to last you both have to start revealing the real you including faults, and learn to accept each other. Its easy to love someone who tries to be perfect, but when you can love someone despite their faults you have a more lasting relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2005): you got to play a little hard to get .. not so much that he feels your not interested no more just so that he has to put some more effort in to it .. i had the same problem with someone i was with and as soon as i stop chasing him to put more effort in he started realises that he needed to.
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