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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So i've been dating this guy for about three weeks now, everything has been going really great. We've both had our history of unhealthy relationships. (like really bad)So, I think we were thankful to find eachother, because we were tired of the pain and struggles in our relationships. We've also been good friends for quite some time. (I'm 16, he's 18) by the way.The thing is, I am addicted to the pain, probably because it was all I felt in 2009. So this is all new and fresh to me, and happiness is not really my thing. I'm really scared to be happy, so for the past few days, I've just been nitting and picking at things, making excuses for us to argue about.And a couple days ago, I actually wished for the some sort of pain, like I wanted to feel it. It's like I'm in love with it or something. (This all sounds really weird I know)I don't know how to let myself to just let go, and be happy. I have a guard up always and I don't know how to let someone else in. When I was in a bad relationship, a great relationship was all I ever wished for, but now that I have it, my skin is like screaming and I'm literally like "!!!!!!!!!!" all the time, ready to burst. Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 January 2010):
You're scared that he will hurt you, so to stop it you're pushing him away now. You need to relax and trust this guy, because if you don't you will lose him and this might develop into a serious problem. Just relax and trust him.
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