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writes:Dear Cupid,I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. We used to be in a long-distance relationship and while I was gone, we used to talk about how happy we were and how excited we were for me to move and get our own place. Well... Now, we're living together but we don't spend any time together, unless you count watching tv, but sitting on different couches. Sometimes, I go all day without seeing him and when I do, we don't touch at all. I would go all day without a kiss from him if I didn't ask for one. I feel so lonely... I don't know what to do anymore.Thanks,Me. Reply to this Question
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reader, sweetiebabes  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 It seems like the spark has died down. Change the daily routine and make some effort to ignite his interest.
Men are not good in showing much their affection but you can break the daily routine you have at home. Like, when you reach home earlier than him, prepare a good dinner and have a conversation with him that has his best interests and be appreciative in what he does everyday whether at work or at home. When in bed, be the aggressor at times and make him feel you want him (men sometimes like their partner to be aggressive in bed). Explore things you both like in making love. If he is still unresponsive to you and takes you for granted...then be unavailable to him, this will make him think or wonder where you have gone.
Try these few steps if you can rekindle your relationship. If he is still not interested then I think you need to sit with him and have a heart to heart talk. By then you don't have to wait for him and waste more time into a relationship that leads to nowhere.
I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Have you talked to him about this? If so then what did he say?
He might not be a very affectionate person by nature.
It could also be a case of now he has you he feels he doesn't need to make the effort anymore.
Anyway talk to him and see what he says.
Don't let him make any excuses though, if he has a reason then fine but it's definitely not too much to ask for him to be more affectionate and attentive, in fact you really shouldn't have to ask. But if he refuses and doesn't make the effort then you'll have to have a long hard think if this relationship can actually go anywhere.
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