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writes:The man I love is 10 years older then me. He was my karate teacher. Now that he's not my teacher can I tell him that I love him? I'm still not sure if he loves me though. He asks my mom about me and calls me beautiful but I don't know if he is doing it because he loves me or not. And does twirling his finger in my hair count as love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): Hello. Thank you everyone for your imput. I have a decided to wait to tell him. But I might tell his friend Trish who is also my friend and see what she thinks.
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reader, littlemissalf123 +, writes (30 December 2008):
 I don't suggest that you tell an adult man about your feelings for him. Whether he shares your feelings or not it would be illegal by law for the two of you to associate romantically. Teacher or not he's still a VERY grown man
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): Right he's no longer your teacher fine.. But you are still underage for romance with a grown man. You present as aged 13-15 (underage) the age of consent in your country is 18. If you love him, then there is no problems, you can wait. Love is something that can wait for five years or more.. Love can wait a lifetime. Wait until your older and legal and then tell him then.
Please go and talk to your mum about your feelings, the things he says to you, and his romantic actions towards you. I think you'll find out that she agrees with me, and will not be happy with you talking romance with this man before the age of 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): pedophiles groom their victims into a state of attraction, they know the minds of young impressionable girls and work on that. he knows you are waiting to say something, he takes it only so far anticipating you to make the next move to justify his preying on you. i am sure you are quite beautiful and there will be plenty of younger gentlemen who would appreciate your company much better and it would be much safer for you. if you can confide in a close friend, oler than yourself, maybe a family member and get their take. be safe. i know you feel strong enough to say love, but love can always wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): I don't recommend that you tell a teacher a lot older than you that you love him. I mean I totally understand what it feels like to be attracted to someone thats hot, but the truth is, if he's that hot, then he can fine someone his age to go out with. I mean a friendly crush is nice, but I'm not sure your in love with him. You'll probably feel pretty stupid after. And, if he's talking to your mom he might tell her and you'll be pretty embarassed. I'm not trying to be mean, but I guess that if you were one of my friends I'd laugh at you if you told me something like that. But I think it'd be okay to tell him that you've had a crush on him, but I wouldn't go any deeper.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): I think that you always have to follow your heart. If you really like him and you feel that he cares about you it doesn't hurt to say something. I wouldn't say that I love him right away but maybe ask him if he would like to meet for a coffee and talk. See if he is interested and see where it goes.
If he asks about you, calls you beautiful and touches your hair I am sure he will meet up with you for a casual date.
Good luck
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