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writes:I have a general question.... I will actually try to make it short and sweet. Me and my fiancee have been togther for almost a year and a half now. We knew eachother for about 3 though. It feels honestly like it has been 50 years and counting. Me and him went through the unimaginable together. Me and him were 2 crazy people before we met eachother..... to be quite honest. It may have seemed like we had a cold heart but its from all the pain we ever had in our life, that we never wanted to attach ourselves to anyone. We we're never actually really attached to anyone else our whole lives besides 1 person and thats when we were teenagers. Well we really love eachother because we put up with alot of shit with eachother...especially with our past (we didnt have an award winning past-neither one of us) Me and him moved a couple times to far places being with eachother...due to unfortunate happenings, but anyway.... Now... we live in NY away from alot of family, all of our friends ( because they would get us in trouble) but now alot of our time is spent with eachother...He has slipped up and got through my clingy Cancer (thats my zodiac sign) clutches of too much emotion. And I have found a # in his wallet. And he knew i wasn't playing around when i was leaving because i actually asked my mom to pick me up --when even though i had my own car so i wouldnt be able to come back so easy. I want something good out of life not a cheating lieing man. To me thats not a man at all. U have your fun while your young. But grow up. U have a lady (and yes i am a lady, very cool casual sophisticated and smart) who wants kids and a family. Cooks cleans does anything u ask her to... and what do u feel that u need to cheat for? I give him what he needs in every department!! And i mean eeeevvveeerrrry dddeepppaaarrrtttmmmeeennnttt. sometimes i actually think he can't keep up with me. And On top of all that I am a very pretty girl And the girls that i know of who he has been with, and the one girl he tried to act funny with....they aren't even remotely pretty. Maybe a little...but, I don't judge by that but i just don't understand if you know what I mean....Here is my question...Now that he has been being good.... he is boring!!! He don't pay any attention to me....don't wanna be intimate anymore... don't really show any love... I mean I know he is being good, but when he was being funny on me he showed me more love than anything and had top notch you know what. Now... I mean he is home and I have been sitting here for this long writeing this. I'm sorry im not a big woman for having attention from everyone.... I like to look good, always have a really good style about myself...but the person i want attention from the most is the one I love... and then when i kinda run it by him.. he is like... "What do u mean?? I tried this i tried that! I don't do anything right" So i figure thats true and just leave him alone about it.... but I dont have any friends or family...and I do feel a little neglected...Anything I can do?? Or anything I did wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): Being together as long as you two have it's really hard to see yourself without him. But please listen to me and save yourself a world of heartache. The dating and engagement years are supposed to be the effortless years and are as good as it's gonna get. If you are having these problems now it's not going to get better with time and it's certainly not gonna get better by marrying him. Obviously it's your decision to stay or leave, but ask yourself is this someone you truly see spending the rest of your life with and are you willing to feel undesired and always wanting more from your spouse. Just think about it life's much to short to just settle for mediocre!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): How about introducing some new activities into your life that you can do together, take a class or a small course, sign up for dance lessons, archery lessons, fencing lessons anything that rocks your boat!You are far too young to be in a dull relationship. Perhaps you two need a break from each other to realise what you have - I don't mean a break-up but perhaps a few weeks apart on holiday.You really must try making some new friends in NY, it's never good to be solely reliant on your partner for fun.Best of luckx
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