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writes:I'm really struggling with this, need help bad !!!!! im thinking of revenge all the time on my ex fiancee i feel im gonna end up in prison i kid you not !!!!! 16 months of my life she took off me, she got everything she asked for off me money, gifts all my love, i put her first for 16 months gave her everything, took nothing for myself, even put her first before my job my home my family my friends and how did she repay me... by telling me after all i did for her, bought her and gave her, she only ever wanted a 1 night stand (sex basically) !!!!! i asked her why she told me after 16 months????? do you know what she said to me????? just before dumping me????? Now that all your money's gone and you have no job and no home I can't use you any more!!!!! my heart broke i didnt think anyone could cause someone so much pain!!!!! i was wrong, help guy`s please before i do something seriously bad!!!!!
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reader, blieu38 +, writes (24 December 2010):
blieu38 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your word`s of support regarding this matter it is helping me to get through this difficult time. it has made me re`think about whats important in my life now and i will not give in i will not take my revenge i will use it and become a better person for me and everyone around me. thanks to all those people who replied to my problem take care and i wish you all a long and happy life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): The only person that will lose in revenge is you. Don't worry what goes around comes around. Karma is an intolerant take care of business bitch. You think you lost everything Karma's going to take that devil in sheepskin down guaranteeing she lose twenty fold what you've lost. Consider yourself fortunate that dollar day hoe aint stinching your environment with her raunchy pass around coochie no mo. Keep your head up brutha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): I am so sorry about what happened to you. Please do not think about doing anything crazy to that poor excuse of a woman! She never was worth your time and effort; she is worth even less now! Please try to move on...Be confident that karma will get her! As the other poster said, "what comes around goes around." You cannot let her win by suffering any more from her trashy/psychotic behavior. The problem was her, not you--don't punish yourself!
In future romantic endeavors, do not be so generous right off. I don't mean to say be a cheap skate or a jerk, but really try to see how the person is on the inside first. As the saying goes, "don't put all eggs in one basket," hold off until you know over time that the person is worth your love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): HiYou have just experienced something so cruel i agree, you must right at the end of this stop! and to win and feel strong you need to let it go. Your anger must be so big at this time but do you ALSO want her to TAKE YOUR VERY FREEDOM your whole life and soul????seek revenge and you will loose more than material goods and ego....you will loose EVERYTHING. You are made of stronger stuff than this and you can deal with this in the correct manner. You have to rebuild your life and this is without her....start again ....never let the anger eat you away and ruin you...because that will be your OWN DOING NOT HER, decide WHO is more important to put energy into, i would say YOU ARE. So let her go and all she did and said, you are actually untouchable if you change your outlook. Don't feed the wrong wolf..choice! all in your hands....Do you fall?Or do you Rise?You know it's christmas soon and a new year! why not make it the best you have ever had and change your life completely...do things that are exciting and unusual that you may never have done....live for making a good life.Merry christmas and happy new year ! please don't fall.Spunky Monkey :)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 Sorry to hear this story. You have to realize, however, that this girl isn't worth your time, your money, or, even less, your future. A few years in prison would be the very worst result for you. Not only would she have taken your money and your time, but also your chances in the future. Your best interest is in putting her behind you. Please do that.
This kind of experiences are very big eye openers. Use your time to think about how this came to happen. Think whether there was something that should have told you what was really going on. Et cetera. That way you will be better prepared to fend off the bad apples in the future.
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 I feel for you. Everyone has been taken for a ride by someone at one point or another. It sounds like you played the role of protector / provider. Most successful relationships both people are equal and you aren't supporting one another and you fall in love because you love someone, not because they are nice to you (it works that way for pets, but not humans). She probably figured that things were "equal" since she was providing sex for you.
You have a right to be angry but perhaps there were signs long ago that she wasn't in it for the long haul.
What comes around goes around, so soon you'll find yourself with someone who wants to be with you and appreciate your generosity.
In the mean time, hit the gym, go for a run, or spend the time / money that you had invested in this woman on your family. Eventually things will be better.
I know it's small consolation, but look at the bright side, you figured things out now, instead of 5 years down the road after you had married her.
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (20 December 2010):
 People like her are trash and are not going to get anywhere in life. She's going to burn plenty of bridges by using people, believe me. I honestly don't know how someone could use and manipulate a person and not have it eat away at their conscience. People like that have no heart and no self-respect or respect for others. She will get hers, believe me. For now, you can't think of wasting your life on someone who's that messed up and who lacks so much moral code. She's a horrible person, and you'd be best to forget about her and try to better your own life. You WILL find someone who's not a snake in the grass and who DOES love you for what you have to offer in personality and devotion. You just have to spend your time looking forward instead of looking back at a woman who's not even worth the air she breathes.
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