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writes:It seems to me that when you meet someone that you would be interested in, you have a very short window to let that be known. Otherwise people get comfortable as your friend. And I've never turned a friend into a relationship, nor seen a lot of people do it unless they were in the movies. I work with the public usually and am very personable, I network a lot because of my music career, so a lot of the people I've met over the years I still see often in passing, which also is attributed to the small city I live in. What I'm getting at is: there are women I was attracted to and still am, but I never thought I'd be divorced. When you are in a relationship, to me, even flirting is unfaithful, unless maybe when it's done in front of the partner only. As far as being single now and now being able to flirt with these now familiar girls, there is literally nothing I can do about it now, right?I also put off a lot of people that I still know. If they flirted with me, because I was married I didn't know how to act back, and would often just say that I was married. I would flirt with them now, but everything kinda seems weird now. Just stick to new people and strangers from here on out, huh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): Beautiful relationships can result from friendships. If the approach is right and you start seeing more of each other, you can build on grounds of friendship even with people you have been knowing for a while (are they coworkers? I ask because the music business is not the most stable environment - see the separation rates among stars and musicians, but then again I see no harm in seeing a fellow-musician either, in some cases it works). If it doesn't work out for you, you can always revert back to the friendship stage. Are you friends with your exes? Can you be friends with exes? It can be weird when you hit close to home, to say so, but it can also be cozy and more or less familiar. But if the person is reliable and you get to know her, that matters more than whether she is an old 'friend' or a someone new.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (22 March 2010):
 Hrmmm I dont know if you should have a plan about this one.Just do whatever feels right at the moment.I mean you cant possibly flirt with all the ladies,otherwise you're gonna be named a player.
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