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writes:my husband has always been a truck driver when i meet hem thats what he was doing he would leave monday be back tuesday nite work in twon wednesday then leave thursday and be back friday night and was off for the weekend when i got pregnant he stop goin out of twon so he could be home more but now he got a new shift where he will be leaving sunday night and wont be back till wednesday evening our baby is 9months now i stay home for now taking care of our baby and our home i dislike what he does i hate it that he leave us i feel over whelm with hes choice of work it bothers me that he gets to leave for that many day and isnt home to help me with our baby i know hes only gone for three night and three days but thats alot for me ive told hem how much i hate it and that he needs to do somthing about it eigther find another job or talk to your boss i feel like hes goin to skip out on alot here at home im i being selfish? everytime i talk to hem about it or say something like well you need to find a diffrent job he get very mad at me and blows me off it makes me feel like he rather be out there working then to be home with hes family theres many jobs that he could be doing as a truck driver in twon but he rather be out when i tell hem this he get mad at me and tells me its not hes choice its work and he has to do its not that he wants to,so realy idk what to belive i want to belive hem but the way he acts about thing makes me belive hes lying to me about hes options at work he choice to work out of twon when i told hem not to anyways somebody please help me on some good advice on how to look at this situation in a batter positive way!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for the positive adivice i will take your adivice and keep it in gods hands like you said your advice did help me out alot and i will do just that pray for the best!your right im very greatfull for my husbands hard work and i do apricitte hes hard work im sure he know that and also know how much i do love hem and miss hem when hes away! i do thank you for making me seeing in a better way this economy is very weak hes been up and dwn and finally he got hes old job back so i guess i such be more thankfull for that seens he had a rought time getting other job! anyways thank you again!
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (9 May 2012):
 I commend your spouse to trying to support his family. What you have to understand is that he may not know what else he can do to earn that kind of money. What other skill set does he possess? Maybe he never went to college. Maybe he doesn't have experience doing anything but driving a truck. Maybe he's not the bosses pet and it's difficult to ask for a different shift when your boss doesn't like you. Also as a young Dad he may feel overwhelmed by the prospect of helping you with the baby. To a man, it seems easy for women. It's what they were made for. But he may need the escape that work provides so he doesn't end up looking like he doesn't know how to hold the baby; or what to do when the child won't stop crying. He'd rather just drive the truck and leave the child-rearing to you. It may also be the way he was brought up. The woman stayed at home and the men disappeared into work. Try not to be so hard on him. If he comes home to you when his shift is over and doesn't run off all the time to meet the guys for a drink, don't make him feel worse by insisting that he find another job. He may not know what else to do without going back to school and right now, that's not an option. Think about how this is shaping you as a woman. You are learning how to be self-sufficent. You are learning how to manage the baby and every day tasks without alot of help. This is a great skill that will pay off in the long run. It will help you mature and become more independent. I know it must be very hard to be the solo parent every night, bathing and feeding and getting up with the baby, but at least you don't have to get up the next day at 6:00 Am and get ready to go to work when you've only had 3 hours of sleep. Just make the most of it. Give your husband your support and don't forget to tell him how much you appreciate him providing for you and the baby every day.
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reader, Internet preacher man +, writes (8 May 2012):
This is a hard situation. You need to ask your husband if he really loves you and his new baby. Tell him you love miss him and need him. Tell him how proud you are of him to have a job and let him know you appreciate his efforts to keep his job even if it takes him away from you. One thing you can do is see what other jobs are available in your city. Look at jobs on the internet for your town and look at the paper to. If you find one that seems to be good then let him know. If he gets mad at you then this is his way of saying to you that he loves his job and refuses to quit. Pray for strength in you and in your husband to bare this and pray for you and your family also.Yes you love and miss and need him. This is very understandable. In most cities all over this nation the economy is still weak and there aren't many jobs no where. Do thank God he has a job. Any job is better than no job at all. Thank God you have your bills paid and a roof over your head and food for you and your baby. Thank God for this. In the mean time do continue to pray for you him and your family. From the internet preacher man.
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