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writes: Not sure where I stand with this lovely guy who I am friends with. We’ve been hanging out for about 3 months. He has been really busy lately so I have backed off somewhat because I thought that is what he wanted. His texts had been less frequent for about a month and a half because of this, but when I was out with his family recently (our parents are best mates) he started texted me alot since then saying that he misses seeing/talking to me and wanted to see me. I love his attentiveness immensely but I am confused as to whether he wants more??? I am not sure what happened for the texts to suddenly come thick and fast again. I am thinking he is interested and has realised that I am not going to sit by the phone every night - I have a strong independent streak. I sensed that when I was out with his family the other night he was ‘reminding’ me of his existence so I would be thinking of him and not flirting with other guys, otherwise why choose the one time when he knows I am out to text me these things? Am I right in my thinking or reading way too much into this? I am finding this all very confusing and don’t know what to do. Does he see me as a friend or something more?
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (28 March 2006):
 Well I think you certainly could have a point on the timing of the deluge of texts; on the other hand and conversly, you being out with his family may have placed you at the forefront of his conscious mind and as probably brought his feelings more sharply into focus as well so it is a prehaps a little unfair to see it as simply him announcing himself.
Saying you miss seeing/talking to someone is alot short of a declaration of love but it could well indicate he feels there could be more there than friendship. At the very least; it indicates that your presence is not incidental to him. On the other hand I think you need to consider other things when trying to 'read the runes'; for example does he overtly flirt with you in other ways?
It is possible he is 'putting out feelers' and exploring how he feels about you and just getting to know this through this interaction with you. In that sense you may well not be dealing with something that has a concrete 'yes' or 'no' answer but be dealing more in possibilities.
You also have to bear in mind that it is totally possible he is as confused as you and, if this is the case, he will send out confusing signals which will in turn confuse you even more. With that in mind I think you have to do a certain amount of 'going with the flow' and seeing what arises. Hope that helps.
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