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writes:Okay, I'm 21 and he's 19. He just got out a relationship about 2 months ago. I really like him and seriously want to be more than friends but at the same time, I don't wanna be too pushy about this whole thing.Around 2 days ago, I told him how I felt and he told me he wasn't ready to jump in another relationship at this time, yet he still calls me like every day, wants to hang out, ect...I don't really want to ask him what this is between us in fear of some embarrassment and/or him not wanting to talk to me again.Ugh... what should I do? :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): I'd say he seems to like you that you told him you had a crush and he didn't start avoiding you is a positive sign. He just got out of a relationship give him some time, keep talking to him, enjoy. Men just don't have the same need to define a relationship as women do, they rather go with what feels right. Besides he already told you didn't he that he wasn't ready yet. How long was his relationship if it was a lengthy one it could take some time or he could just need to be single for a bit. Its better he tells you then just uses you as the rebound girl.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (1 June 2009):
 Hi,
I think that he wants just what he told you,....not to jump into a relationship again. His state is still a little raw at this time so it is best that you two just continue as friends.
If he calls, chat, emails, telephones, nothing is wrong with him wanting to do that...he is just communicating with you. The trick is for you not to get confused with his communicating into thinking that he wants something more right now than just a friend. He alreaday said his thoughts on that.
Be his friend and chillax on the relationship thing a bit. He still needs his time to heal and sort himself out....you just be a good friend. You never know what might happen after. But you need to respect his wishes
Hope this helps
Ana
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