| A
female
,
*iggles
writes: i have been chatting to a man on the net for 2 months and met him last wk.his really nice and i have never felt so comfortable around someone in meeting for the first time,even his friend kept asking if we had met up before,as we were so relaxed and familiar with each other.i told him i think he is really nice and asked what he thought bout me he said he isn't saying anything yet and yesterday he put x's at the end of a convo which he never normally does.i dont know if he is playing hard to get or just wants to be friends.i feel like he wants there to be more too, but how can i tell.we still chat for hours on the net and he popped to mine briefly since we met but i am still unclear about his intentions what can i do to find out without being too obviousto see what his feelings are?
View related questions:
the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, snowbird  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Fingers crossed here too, and going from your letters I think you are more than capable of charming this guy's toes off!! I do hope all goes well for you. Take care, chicky!!
A
female
reader, giggles +, writes (16 August 2006):
giggles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi snow bird ty again i think you got it exactly. i know he dont like girls being too pushy and clingy with him i think it does scare him a bit if they are.thanks for the advice.i will get onto asking him out again i was just worried if i did he might see me as wanting alot more from him after all i want to meet him again mainly to be able to help me see if i like him as much as i think i do and to get to know him better even if it ends up with us just being friends i'll be happy knowing we met up and thats the outcome.cheers again and i got my fingers crossed (lol)
...............................
A
female
reader, snowbird +, writes (16 August 2006):
Hi there 'Giggles', me again!
Have you considered that he may be feeling the same way as you and is on the net in the first place as he is unable to converse face to face easily?
He has put xx's on a convo, so that, to me indicates affection.. Why don't you just suggest a drink or lunch together, so that you can get to know him a little better, and the conversation can flow more naturally? It worked so well last time, after all, did'nt it, so getting him to come out (tell him "no pressure") with you should'nt be a big deal.
You don't need to know if it is going to turn into anything more, but hey, what's the rush? He is probably just a slow burner, or perhaps he has had experiences of women being 'pushy' for 'serious relationships' or even wedding bells too soon, and is a bit wary of giving out the wrong signals. So keep it cool and friendly, and give him the chance to do the chasing if he wants to. This is an interesting question, and I would love to know the outcome! Bye for now, good luck.
Go on, what is there to lose?!
...............................
A
female
reader, giggles +, writes (15 August 2006):
giggles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi in response to the answers i recieved, i feel like i didn't say as much as i should of about how we get along.really i do know him quite well dispite us only chatting through the private message site.he knows the same people i know and was an old school friend of my ex partner so i have sort of an inside way to know if he is commited to anybody else.he is single and does live with his mum due to his relationship ending with his ex partner and after meeting him i felt we had a stronger connection. the main problem for me is picking up signals of interest and how to approach an adult relationship since my last one ended recently and that started when i was 17 im now 26 and haven't a clue about how to know when and if i should try for more.in fact im useless at picking up on signals.ty to those who have replied already some points from those have been really helpful.
...............................
A
female
reader, snowbird +, writes (14 August 2006):
'Tis the nature of the beast which is on-line dating, methinks'!!!
This is always the awkward, walking-on -eggshells time in a relationship, where you have to be led gently by one another's actions..
He on the hand, may feel he knows you well enough through chatting on-line, but on the other hand, it is quite different to meet you 'in the flesh', as it were. A lot of other things come into play then, such as nerves, shyness, chemistry, mannerisms, the physical side of things. You both need time to 'weigh one another up' - so to speak.
Also consider the fact that if he already had an existing relationship on the go, (sorry, but this DOES happen a lot on the net) it would be easier for you to find out, now that there is an increased chance that you may wish to visit his home...or, he may just live with his mum and dad, and be really embarrassed about it!
Bear in mind though, that you can, and do, meet a lot of people on-line, and people can disappear as quickly as they appeared, and have no idea of the havoc they are causing in their wake...it is like a vast sweetie-shop out there, and a man...or woman.. can go in innocently looking for humbugs - and - ooooh, the variety!!! - Catch my drift!? Just take your time, and don't close all your other avenues just yet, give him a bit of space and don't put him under any undue pressure. Stay friendly - he knows how you feel about him, and where you are, so there isn't a lot you can do for now, other than keep in touch, let him take the reigns for now. Good luck (by the way, I met my man on-line, and it is going pretty well after 10 months) - Take care! :o)
...............................
A
female
reader, SXYBB91 +, writes (14 August 2006):
you should jsut come out and ask him wheather he wants to be friends or if he wants more or you could just ask him what his feelings are on ya does he think of u as a friend or does he think there could be more between u or u could start a convo up and wen ur havin a alf just come and say i think we would make a good couple if we were together and ask him if he thinks the same. there are just some ideas i hope i ave helped u. good luck
...............................
|
