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writes:I've known this girl for about 2 years, we originally met as she was a co-worker of a very good friend of mine and has joined us (among others) for the occasional night out. Almost the entire time I've known her she has been in a relationship but became single a couple of months ago as the guy she was previously with wasn't very outgoing and was getting overly attached to her. We haven't been particularly close but recently we both attended a couple of gigs and festivals (again with other friends present).For the very first time last week she randomly invited me to come out and play pool, something that we do occasionally do with friends, although we've only ever both been there at the same time because a mutual friend has invited both of us, so this was the first time she had instigated it - and she asked me to invite anyone else that might be up for it. I didn't read too much into that, but nearer the time she changed the date from Saturday to Friday as she had plans for Saturday. I casually asked what her plans were, and she said she was going to London for the day with her best friend, but then extended an invite for me to join them. After never having communicated with each other outside of face-to-face, she was suddenly inviting me to 2 events in 2 days. I played it cool and said I was quite tempted and then a couple of days later agreed to go.Before meeting on Friday she was asking about the time to meet me at the pool club, and asked for my phone number (previously we had been talking only over FB chat). After meeting to play pool she was very chatty to me, particularly looking at and talking to me over everyone else and gave me a hug when she went to leave. On the Saturday morning she sent me a text asking if I wanted to drive over to hers beforehand so we could leave together (never been round her house before). When I reminded her I don't have a car she offered to, and actually did, drive over to pick me up and bring me back to hers. We had a fun day out drinking in London with her two female friends (whom I got on well with), and at one point she put her arm around me and I put mine around hers, we had a good few laughs and the conversation was good. Towards the end of the night when it was getting late there was talk of staying out all night, although I had plans on the following morning so declined and said I would get the last train home instead, although a part of me really wanted to stay out. She even said if I stayed out I could come back to hers that night and stay over and one of her friends who lives in my town would drive me back in the morning!Towards the end of the night we hugged and I left to get my train, but we have arranged to meet up again in a couple of weeks for a drinking contest!One the down-side, she did talk a little bit about, and was occasionally sending texts to, a guy that she has met about 2 months ago via online dating (and has since been on a couple of dates with). She said things seemed quite positive but he has turned a little bit flakey - cancelling their third date because of man-flu - and yet also overly attached - in this girl's words, he was telling her mum after the second date "I really really like your daughter" - although he was drunk.We have been texting back and forth a bit and she told me that I really make her laugh.So in summary a lot of her actions and words seem to point to me that she's interested, although she does have other prospects and was openly talking about this other guy in front of me, which makes me wonder if I'm reading too much into things as I often do, and perhaps she just sees me as someone that she can have a good laugh with and wants to hang out with more. If anyone can give their input or thoughts on this situation I'd be really grateful!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 If you like this girl then I suggest that you ask her out on a date and see her response, at least then you will know if she likes you as a friend or potentially something more.
Asking you out to play pool and out drinking with her is a good sign that she wants to spend time with you for sure and this can only mean positive things.
Yes her mentioning this other guy does make it sound like she has interest in someone else but it could have also been her way off letting you know that she is on the market for dating and also she may have been testing you out to see how you reacted to the news that she was dating another man.
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