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writes:im not ready to have sex but my boyfriend is and i don't want to tell him what should i do
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reader, Tii3RN3Ybbs.  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 Hi babes,
Hmm this is an arkward position.
right well,,
Babes you can't not tell your boyfriend,
you need to no your able to tlk to him about these things.
he needs to no how ur feeling.
you both shouldnt fall out and you shouldnt aviod him just because he wants sex,
maybe if you talked to him, he'd wait untill the times right, and ur both ready not ethier one or the others ready,.
if he loved you he'd wait untill the right momment you both are happy and are ready to have sex.
i hope this helped x
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reader, emzy_lou +, writes (29 July 2008):
 If you think the time isn't right then don't do it! You've got a life time ahead of you, and your first time should be special. Just tell your boyfriend how you feel & if he does repect and love you then he'll do it when the time is right for you.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (29 July 2008):
 If you're not ready, you won't appreciate it as much. Take your time and wait, if you BF truly loves you, he'll respect that.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (29 July 2008):
 Your FIRST time should be a good experience. If not, it will affect your outlook on sex for a long time.
If you are not ready, don't feel pressured into submitting. It is YOUR body. Respect it, and yourself.
Calmly tell your boyfriend that you are not ready. I think that if he truly cares about you, he will adher to your feelings about it.
And if and when you DO decide to have sex, either get onto "the pill" ( Don't have sex until the doctor tells you that the time frame for the pill to take effect has kicked in.) or use "contraceptive foam" WITH a "rubber." You CAN get pregnant the first time. You CAN also get pregnant if he "cums" near the entrance of your vagina where the sperm can swim up to your womb.
Take Care Hun
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (29 July 2008):
Why are you scared of telling your bf that you are not ready?
What do you think his reaction will be?
Do you fear he will dump you? If so, then that just proves hes not good enough for you! In all honestly, if your bf is a decent guy he will understand that having sex is a big deal and no one should be pressured into it or do it when they are nto ready. He will be understanding and supporitve if he is a good guy.
So really, you have nothing to fear. If he reacts badly then be glad you realised before you had sex that hes a loser and not later.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 July 2008):
If you are too scared or weak to tell your boyfriend then you are really really not ready for sex. You should be able to tell him anything!
Just talk to him about it in a calm way. If he cares about you he will understand. If he gets angry then he is just trying to get sex from you and does not love you and you need to leave.
No man should EVER EVER pressure you into anything you don't want to do.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (29 July 2008):
 your only option is to tell him the longer you leave it the more frustrated he will be that you did not tell him..if you are not ready then dont do it. if he loves you he wont preassure or force you to do something you are not ready to do.. hope that helps aphex xx
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