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writes:I'm a 15 year old virgin with ZERO experience in the sex department and my boyfriend seems to be a FREAK in that department. He's 18 but you see I wanna be able to fufil his sexual desires but I'm a virgin and I dunno if I wanna lose it yet. Yet I don't wanna disappoint him or something. What do I do HELP MEE !! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR ADVICE!
i feel much more confident about myself.!!
special thanks to you YuukiBear and 19 yr old virgin
Lol =]
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reader, Small B  +, writes (4 February 2009):
hiya...1st of all never do anything you are not ready for or do not want to do. If your boyfriend really cares about you and respects you den he will wait until you are ready..never give into a mans demands because they will have you in a trap and feel they can push and pester you whenever and how ever they like..
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reader, YuukiBear +, writes (3 February 2009):
 Are you sure you want to lose it to him?
That is the only question I ask. If you want to lose it to him then go for it. If you aren't sure then wait until you are. If you don't want to then don't. If he wants sex then he will have to wait until you are ready. If he cares about you enough to wait then he is totally worth it. (Even if he is a FREAK in that department)
Good luck hun!
~Allana Rose
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Your underage. He is a lot older than you (in teen years) He sounds like a total loser. The fact he's going after school girls to get laid is really pathetic. Don't do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Ok here in the states a boy of 18 is considered of legal age, a girl of 15 is illegal, if your parents find out and they are mad at him they can prosecute him for statuatory rape and his name will go on a National Sex Offenders list for the rest of his life. Is having illegal sex worth this to you both.
There is a reason for the law and this is it. Girls under the age of 18 are vulnerable to sexual exploitation by older and more experienced males, they can be led to make poor choices. They also are vunerable to unwanted pregnancy without the financial or emotional where with all to sustain the life of the child. Not only this but you are at an extreme risk just to your young age of contracting HPV a virus that leads to cervical cancer which is deadly. The reasons are not completley known but it seems that merely being physically under age puts you at a high risk. Condoms do not protect against this virus. You are not more likely or less likely to get it if you have multiple partners, so just one time having sex can give you the virus. In fact I personally know a young girl of 19 that was diagnosed with cervical cancer and she has sex once. There is a vaccination for the virus but the jury is out at how well it protects girls from this.
Your 18 year old boyfriend being a freak or sexually experienced at his young age should tell you something about his character....you are soon to be another notch on his bedpost, he will loose all respect for you, he will have gotten what he wanted and he will drop you, not because you didn't please him, but because his interest in you will go away.
You will be left with a bad reputation at your school for being easy and he will hurt your feelings and your self esteem will be in the toilet. Virginity is not something that you need to be ashamed of or try to loose to get rid of it, so you can then become sexually experienced. The goal in life is not to become experienced really, it is to fall in love have meaningfull mature relationship and become sexually fulfilled because you are in love and sex is an expression of that love....of course it can be for fun, too, but in the safety of a secure, trusting, loving relationship and when you are older and more mature both physically, mentally, emotionally and financially to bear the consequences should you fall pregnant.
Talk about ending your teen years, try having a screaming baby that is glued to you 24/7....think before you act, if you aren't ready, your boyfriend will respect you for saying no, and if he doesn't then good riddance, he did you a favor as he didn't really care about YOU at all.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (3 February 2009):
don't have sex with him just to "fufill his needs"
your first time is about you, not him. if you are not ready for sex then DONT HAVE SEX!
also your first time will be painful and probably uncomfortable, so you won't be thinking about how to spice things up for him, you will be thinking how to make it more enjoyable for you! or wondering how long it will take till he cums. lol. so don't have sex with him untill you are ready! also you are only 15, what is the rush! if he has sex with you and someone reports him, he could go to prison for rape of a minor. you may give him your consent, but it is still rape as you are under the age of consent. is it really worth it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Dont do it and if you do get him checked out for STDs and tell your parents you are considering this ,so they can help you..
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reader, xmisslovettx +, writes (3 February 2009):
dont lose it. im 14 and i lost my virginity last year and it really hurt. also after you do it , you're boyfriend will always be wanting to do it more and more and tbh the worry after having sex even protected sex is hell. Because things can go wrong if neither of you are experienced and theres always a chance of getting pregnant. Just tell him if he loves you , he would wait till your 16 when its legal and there are no worries.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Sweetheat im 19 but im still a virgin . its not worth it to lose your virginity on some boy. i had boyfriends too but i never ever wanted hem to use me. if a guy is escpecially experienced it shos that very soon he will lose intrest in you and want someone else to have sex with. i thnk you should wait one da you will look back and realize how lucky you ar to be a virgin. lose it on someone worth the husle which i hink is your future husband.........
Enjoy being a teenager!!!!!!!!1
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