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writes:I have been out into the city tonight, and haven't managed to find anybody to keep me company.My night started with friends in a pub. They had been in most of the day, but I hadn't been there for very long. After about an hour and a half, they left to go back to one of their houses for drinks. Unfortunately for me, my bus stop was in the completely wrong direction, and would take me at least 40 minutes to get back. So I left them. I went to a pub nearer my bus stop. From there, I wasn't approached at all, and I saw nobody who I personally wanted to approach. I then took to the streets. Some people approached me, but it was only really to ask questions about my appearance (my hairstyle). After that, they seemed to want nothing from me. In fact, I felt ignored. After that, I was at a loss. It started to rain and I felt like absolutely nobody is interested in getting to know me.I don't understand. Am I doing something wrong here, or was I just unlucky? I've had nights like these, where I've gotten to talking to somebody, we've got to know each other and we've had a very nice evening. But this is becoming a rarity, and I wish I knew why that was. Can anyone help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): It's not about you....it's about them. Just like your friends who had already been at the pub for a long time and didn't want to stay there anymore for money reasons or other things, so it is with others. They may have other things going on in their lives and couldn't be concerned with making new friends that night, don't take it personally.
Having said that, I will add this ; are you making yourself interesting? What do you talk about? In other words, what do you have to offer? Make an offer that no one can refuse, conversation that people are interested in, a talent that will intertain, and perhaps an offer to buy someone a drink....other than that, get a hobby that doesn't involve drinking or join a group like habitat for humanity. You will meet more and different people this way.
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reader, !Candice16!  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 People can be judgamental before they even know someone. and that really burns our self-esteem and confidence. Just because people don't approach you does not always mean they don't want to get to know you. What i would do is start approaching them. Also find people who share your interests. Start putting ads up for baby sitting. You meet more people that way. of course that's a suggestion. hope I helped you.
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