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writes:a case for the female readers in here(guys can say some but this more related to female mind). So, there is a nice girl that i like and would love to have a relationship with her BUT i work alot and im taking courses which makes it difficult to have a relationship as for i dont have every day to hang out with her. my question is, how much attention girls/female want? would you ever consider a relationship with a guy that dont have alot of time for ya? please let me know what you think about that. thank you in advance:) Reply to this Question
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reader, GettingHelp  +, writes (13 April 2010):
Short answer: yes I would but...
Long Answer:
It can be really frustrating for many girls if we don't get attention - and it can upset many relationships when you don't get to see each other.
That being said there are many things you can do besides literally "going out".
A ***few*** girls enjoy being "socially unsociable" - i.e. you both do separate work but you do it in the same place at the same time. Its not very romantic (most girls appreciate romantic stuff) but maybe...
Would I ever consider a relationship with a guy that doesn't have a lot of time for me? - Yes. I'm in one right now. My boyfriend owns his own business and works his arse off 7 days a week - but then so do I. We manage to see each other at least once a week and the time we spend together is quality time, rather than quantity. Sometimes I have to go with him to clients but it's not a big deal. Yes, it is super lonely waiting in the car for him and yes, I do wish I saw more of him but because I'm such a busy person myself - I'm okay with it. I would love if he spent more time on me (not necessarily *with* me) i.e. smsing me more often & calling me - not to the extent where it becomes clingy but we girls love to know that we are being thought of and missed.
It's hard but if you both know the meaning of hard work and why these things are important to each other it's manageable.
My advice however would be not to go for it, unless you know she is definitely interested in you at the moment. Why? It's easier to deal with those issues in a relationship if the feeling between you is mutual from the beginning.
Make sure she knows that you don't have a lot of time.
You had better be prepared to make time for her at the very least once a week and make it quality time.
If you're prepared to make time for her then tell her that too - but make sure she goes into it with honesty from you and her eyes open otherwise she will probably get pissy and it won't work.
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