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writes:I've been married for 10 years, and feel like our relationship is still solid. However, recently I visited my wife's office and noticed that on her desk she had a photo of our son and a photo of her late (gay) boss, but no photo of me.Do you think that is weird or am I being too sensitive? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): so, any new news about your photo, does she now have 1 of you in sight on her desk?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, sorry it's taken me a bit to respond-- my HD died, etc.I probably should have put in my original question that she used to have our wedding photo on her desk as well as another just of me.By "late" boss I did indeed mean dead. I'm not worried about him!Thank you all for your replies!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): ooooooooopse, forgot to say, after you get the family photo for her to display, VISIT HER UNEXPECTEDLY AT HER OFFICE, then see if you are in evidence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): suspicious of the boss photo......but if you believe that your marriage is solid, ask her.........do not demand......do not accuse but get to the bottom of it. You have a right to question, and also to investigate the gay dead boss and his "relationship" with your wife (if any). strange situation. but please let us know. and yet , just innocently get a frame with the 3 of you looking happy as punch and then "innocently" tell her that you noticed that there was no family photo of all 3 together, just wanted to get her something special. so next time you visit and you are still not in evidence on her desk, you need to start getting worried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): I have to completely agree with Britt. That is very strange to me. I know guys who have photos of their motorcycle on their desk and not their wife, but a former boss. If by late you mean deceased then I would wonder what he meant to her. Was he just the greatest and kindest boss she ever had or is there something else there. Still strange in my opinion. The 2 of you need to discuss this in a civil and non-threatening manner. As Britt said, communication is key.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): To Gina...You sent me into a panic when you said tomorrow is Mothers Day! Mothers Day, here is in May! So, anyway, Happy Mothers Day, Gina!
To the Questioner...I understand your feelings, I would feel bothered about that too! I don't think you are being overly sensitive. I would ask her why she doesn't have a picture of you. Communication is very important in relationships. You need to open up when something is bothering you. She is not a mind reader, and if you withhold your feelings about it, they can eat at you and turn it into much more than it actually is! Talk to your wife!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): agree with below - but if worried why not get a really good picture of yourself done and put it in a frame and give it to her as a surprise present and tell you would like one of her....
Star.x.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (21 March 2009):
 I think you are being far too sensitive, but have you given her a nice framed photo of the two of you together or a family picture?
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