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30-35,
anonymous
writes:This isn't a relationship,dating,love, or sex question. See my family look at me all wrong because of my parent's background and how my sister is,excuse me, hoeing around. My daddy is a thief so they think I still from him. My daddy lies a lot so every word I say is a lie. My sister have sex so every time I step out the house I'm being a "slut"! It gets so annoying and it hurts me. Okay yes I made some mistakes by lying but kids lie sometimes when they don't want to be in trouble. Like when you were little and wanted a cookie before dinner but wasn't allowed to get it until you ate but you got in anyway type of lie. Yes I do be out but that's because I don't feel welcome. I mean when things are said to me I want to yell but instead I go outside and take a long walk to clear my mind it doesn't mean I'm having sex. I don't know it just gets tiring knowing that you have no one but a few people to come home to. I've never had my parents so I don't know guess it'll always be a missing part of me. I try so hard to show the ones who do care that I'm grateful to have them but it seems like they believe the things they hear too because I get questioned. It's difficult to explain. Can someone please just help me ? Reply to this Question
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 March 2013):
Unless I missed it, it doesn't seem like you've tried to have a discussion with them. Not a fight, but a discussion.
You did a decent job of saying what's bothering you here, but I'd think about everything you want to say and how you want to say it first.
Sometimes people just have to live in less than ideal circumstances until they can move out and be on their own. When you move out you'll be "free". Just try to be a better person than your parents were, because someday you may have kids of your own.
Everything will be okay, just be patient because it may take a little bit of time.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 March 2013):
 Sounds pretty extreme. Honestly, if most of the people in your community have some sort of predetermined sense about you, there is little you can do to change their minds. These situations are the ones where it's usually best for someone to make a major life change. The kind I'd recommend would be moving far enough away where nobody knows you and starting fresh.
It will be difficult at first, but if you truly aren't the person they think you are, then the people in the new place will see you for you, and not for your father or sister.
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