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30-35,
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writes:i met this really nice and cute guy. everything started out like a regular friendship until i had problems with my ex. i was very stressed and upset but somehow he was there for me. he made me feel better, telling me all these sweet things and our friendship became more than that. its like there was a spark and i started liking him more and more. but there was a problem,my friends kept telling me he was a player and also there was another girl be for me... so one night he finally asked me out on a date, i went and had an amazing time. but i came home to find out he had been with her the day before when that night he had told me he was serious about me and so on. i confronted him about it and he told me he had told her they were just friends and that he liked me. i talked to her about it and she said it was true. finally things were working out. we were happy spending tons of time together. he texted me constantly no matter what and told me he thought i was the one. one day he texts me and tells me he had made a bet with this girl and he lost so he had to take her to dinner and a movie. i got really upset and made a big deal about it. (i don't know if i over exaggerated but if you knew every little detail of the story you would know) he got really upset that i was sad and told me that the "thing" we have is officially over. (we weren't ever officially dating because of his overwhelming basketball schedule) i was devastated until a few days later after not talking he texted me telling me he missed me and wanted things to go back to normal and i agreed to it. but things haven't gone back to normal. we hardly text, i have to start the conversations and so on. i understand he is very busy with school and basketball as it is a goal for him to get a scholarship and he actually has a chance because more than one school has been scouting him. but i don't understand because even though we don't talk much, if he really loved me like he says the connection would be the same when we do talk. plus its difficult because he recently transferred schools to have more scouting opportunities. still i do not know if he has just lost his feelings for me or is just to busy? what should i do?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 April 2010):
 This is a generalization that allows for individual exceptions but in general "too busy" is just a lame excuse. Who is he ? The secretary of United Nations ? The mayor of New York ?.... A quick phone call takes 5 minutes, a line of text 2 seconds. Moreover, a few months ago he had more or less the same committments but he was not too busy.
Draw your conclusions...
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