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writes:Okay, I guess I don't where to start here. I guess I can start by saying that I'm in a relationship with a man who I love. This is also the first "serious" relationship I've had(that is where I feel like the love is requited and the man treats me decently.I'm 32, no joke). My biggest obstacle in this relationship is myself and I don't know how to stop. I know if I don't stop, I will lose the first real "love" I have ever had.I can also say that I suffer from severe anxiety and depression, which are both being "treated" but are never mitigated to a point which is managable. Yet he sticks by me and says that he cares for me and he will continue to pray for me. It tears me up. The pressure is so much, I feel like I might cave in. What gets to me the most, I suppose, are the pressures of being a woman in society today. Are people just completely and totally desensitized to what is going on? I have always been down on myself for my looks(I am not overweight, I take care of myself but still feel like I don't make the grade)Women are beyond objectified in this culture. I was the type of girl that had such a big heart and spirit, and now it's just a shell and a robot doing what a woman is supposed to do. There are so many things I wanted to do in this life-not dedicate every waking hour trying to look good and try to keep up and play the game. I've even looked into surgery, but my mom called the place beforehand and told them I was obsessed with my looks, so they were super nice to me. . he told me that I looked like a better-looking Kardashian. Um, wow-he doesn't have to lie to make me feel better. I just feel like whatever I try to do in order to make myself feel better, it backfires. I've been to over 20 therapists in my life-not one has beeen able to help me. I don't know if I can save a relationship if I can't even save myself. I need help and fast. I'm hoping someone can . . .
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): I originally posted this question(not from the uk-must have clicked wrong button)I really would appreciate some advice here! I guess people wouldn't want to respond to a q like this. Points out the truth about our society that is not fun to look at. It's okay.
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