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writes:I've been with this girl for 15 months. When we first met it was perfect, I have so many good memories. Last summer she worked a ways away so we could only see each other a bit every couple of weeks. We got past it, but we didn't really see more of each oher when she got back. She is in her last year of high school and I am in my first year of university.Atleast 2 months ago she felt she loved me, but yesterday she told me she doesn't love me romantically anymore. We are still best friends, and both comforted each other. But she feels that we have lost our emotional thread and connection, and that we are just best friends.I know we aren't together anymore, but I still love her and think if we just spent more time together the fire of love would be restarted. I just think we need to cultivate more interests together and spend time together like in the beginning. I am afraid of losing her forever because we had such a bright future dreamed of. I'm very sad and disappointed. She says she has felt this coming for a while (September, when we started not seeing much of each other) but as I said she loved me atleast in November. The last time she said 'I love you' I could tell something was missing, and that scares me. But I still have hope.She says we are friends but the door to a relationship again isn't closed, but that she can't handle stringing me along. I respect her honesty in telling me, but I still feel as though we have a chance. We have never really fought before, and have never raised our voices. Last I saw her we hugged goodbye and kissed as friends (cheek). I can tell she still has a strong caring for me.I am also worried the outside stress of exams, lots of schoolwork, bad time at her job, and her grandad just getting cancer is making this worse. I want to be there for her, because she needs someone.At the same time, I wonder if the stress is making things tougher for her to know how she feels exactly.I just want to give it another chance by hanging out with her one on one, by finding more interests we share, and re-establishing our emotional connection.
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reader, Zertz +, writes (6 February 2009):
Zertz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate:
No real change, I'm just hoping I'm not reading too much into somethings.
She's flirting with me, has changed topic to say she had a good time hanging out with me, still wears the jewelry I got her for birthday/Christmas. Coincidence?
She had mentioned she wishes she could explain whats going on but her heart is full of so much. I'm not sure what to make of that exactly.
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reader, Zertz +, writes (21 January 2009):
Zertz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe've agreed to hang out more, and have sort of made plans for Friday. No reference to as friends or otherwise, of course as friends.
I think I'm confident in this approach for sure.
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reader, Zertz +, writes (20 January 2009):
Zertz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for a thoughtful and quick reply. Yeah, I've got to have more patience.
I met her for coffee today, and it was okay. Bit awkward to start, but we got talking (anthropology is something we both have interest in) and joking. Pretty much all smiles, but I hope I came off as friendly and not longing.
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