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writes: I am a loner. Most of the girls in my year have boyftriends but I don't. What shall I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (23 May 2005):
Hey, I remember before I dove onto the dating scene I felt the same way too. I kicked myself for being the only one in my crew to always be dateless, and thought that the reason I wasn't happy was I never had a girlfriend. Having someone is great, and I encourage you to look around. The best way if you're not very social is finding hook up connections through friends. That said, having a special someone isn't all it's cracked up to be from what you see of your friends in school. There is a very stressful side you don't see opposing the kissing and cuddling you do see. I have someone I love now, and I'm grateful but my life has never been more complicated. You can go out and have fun without having to make check up calls and explanations. You don't have to schedule around someone else. You have no ties. Live the highschool life to the fullest.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (18 May 2005):
 My suggestion about what you should do is... be glad. Be Very Glad.Not having a boyfriend at this time in your life means that you're free to concentrate on your studies at school and get the best possible education. It means that you can pursue hobbies and interests that only interest you, without worrying that you're boring anyone else. It means you don't have to fend off advances from boys whose interest in you is purely priapic. (Look it up.) And it also means that you don't have to spend your time obsessing about an impossible or impossibly-romantic future, and being heartbroken about breaking up.What having no boyfriend does NOT mean is that you're somehow unattractive or flawed. Girls are often much closer to adulthood at 16 than boys, and in many cases teenage boys are intimidated by that. They don't know how to approach girls their age, especially when sometimes those girls look more like 18 than 16. It's an old saw, I know, but girls who don't date much in high school tend to really blossom by the time they get to university.So, in the meantime, concentrate on study, do really well in school, have fun with your friends, and feel free to go out in group dates, where there are both boys and girls. Be friends with boys (and girls). Don't feel like you have to tie yourself down to a boyfriend at this time in your life. You literally have *decades* of dating to enjoy.Take care and don't worry!So, don't let it get to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2005): hi sweety.First and foremost don`t worry there is more to life than boys and your time for them will come.Put it this way: if they all jumped off a cliff would you need to follow them to be like them?You are an individual and like i said your time will come.There is someone out there for everyone and your guy could be on his way into your life now or later in your life but hey enjoy yourself and please don`t fret about this because when you do get a guy it will be football or cars etc as well as being with you, you know what i`m saying right?I am chuckling to myself because i remember feeling just the way you do then i eventually met the boys and was introduced to all these wicked football teams and this car is better than that cos its got the engine done blah blah blah and i still don`t know a dip stick from a spark plug nor do i care how everton etc are doing in the tables.Just get out there and have fun whilst you are young and let nature take its course.I hope i have helped you .Take care and good luck.xx
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