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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I met a guy who was really sweet, but seemed a little bit awkward in a shy way. I thought he was nice and cute, so I left him my number. He started texted me almost every day to see what I was doing, usually later in the evening, but I was never able to do anything because of my schedule. He was always interested in what I was doing though, and would send me two page apologies if he hadn't responded to my texts within thirty minutes, etc..Finally we were able to hang out. I got him and took him with my friend to my house to watch a movie. He was super sweet, very nice, but still had the awkward, quiet vibe. I kept asking him questions to try to draw him out, and he would happily answer any questions I had, but it seemed like he didn't really know how to keep a convo going. Basically every conversation fell flat. I was feeling weird since he wouldn't/couldn't talk, and I am someone who is able to talk to anyone and make them comfortable.While we are talking he starts rubbing my finger with his, then holds my hand, and finally he puts his arm around my shoulder. Once my friend went to bed, we kissed. I told him nothing more was going to happen so that expectations would be clear, and he was fine with that. We made out for a bit, then we went to sleep.He was the most intense cuddler I have ever experienced in my life. He had both arms around me, one leg over me, fingers interlocking mine, and he kept pulling my head into his chest so he could curl his head over mine. Anytime I would try to wiggle away to breathe, he would pull me back and wrap his arms and leg around me. He did this for seven straight hours. It really freaked me out he was so intense on cuddling with me.The next day i took him home and he was still quiet, but super nice. I finally came right out and told him that he was a quiet person. He just said "No I'm not" then was quiet again. He wished me good luck on my presentation that day. A week later, and I never heard from him again.What gives? Does he feel awkward around me and so he doesn't talk because he might think he is going to say the wrong thing? Why was he such an intense cuddler? I've never experienced a guy who cuddled with that much determination, especially when they knew it wasn't going to lead to anything more. Was he trying to get some action and not putting out much effort in talking, then he settled for cuddling when he realized it wasn't going to happen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): It sounds like he is either very keen on you or very lonely. As he is such a quiet person it sounds like this is a problem for him and maybe he took your comment as a criticism. You could try finding out if this is so, and asking him whether he wants to meet you again. He might be afraid to ask, thinking he has 'failed' somehow.
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