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writes:Hi I am in a new relationship with a guy. The thing is I am a virgin and this is my first serious relationship. We are taking things slow and I am not ready to have sex yet, which my boyfriend understands.Last weekend, we were intimate and he tried to finger me. I felt uncomfortable, it hurt a little and I weren’t turned on. I felt slightly embarrassed. I do pleasure myself from time to time but I’ve never allowed a guy to touch my intimate area before.Next time we are intimate, how can I relax more and any tips on how I can please him without full intercourse?Many thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2013): You can only relax more if you stay within your comfort zone, rather than him pushing the boundaries to see how far he can go with you and then you having to decide on the spot if you should let him ( because you want to please him) or not. You should be the one setting the pace. I understand you care about his feelings too which is great. But the consequence to him is only frustration whereas the consequence to you is discomfort or pain which I think is much worse than frustration. Therefore I think you should be the one to set the pace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2013): More kissing..? I find thats the thing that gets me in the mood. Also are you 'wet' when he goes to put his fingers inside? If not then it would hurt. If your dry then ask him the wet his fingers (licking his finger) and rub your clit more.
Thing is about a woman it can take time for us to be physically ready to have any penetration whether it be with finger or penis.
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