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writes:Hi, first of all, thanks for reading this.I am a 27-year old guy currently in a 4-month old relationship with a 32-year woman whom is working in the same company(albeit different department). Ever since we got together, she started crying every time she tells me her work problems. It seems that her crying is becoming more frequent and worse as time goes by to the extent that she will cry almost 2 or 3 times per week.I always tried my best to motivate her and listen to her whenever it happens. I understood that this may be a most difficult period for her at this company and I want to be supportive for her. I also understand that there will always be happy moments as well as unhappy ones in a relationship.Lately however, her crying seems to extend to our relationship issues. There's even a time where she calls me crying and said she was feeling sick. I am alarmed at her level of depression and discussed this with her and she said she is sorry to be crying so much. Now I feel depressed, helpless, and guilty. I felt so helpless when I see her cry and I felt so guilty that I am having an issue with this.Am I just being a selfish man for worrying about myself when she clearly needed support now? Please be honest with me. Thanks.
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reader, kelthuzad8888 +, writes (13 February 2008):
kelthuzad8888 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst of all, thanks to all who replied with their valid feedbacks and advices. I really appreciate it. I am happy to report that we had a good talk about it, she has taken steps to resolve the source of her depression. She's in a far better condition now, and it seems our relationship has grown stronger from it. It is just the beginning of our journey, wish us luck! Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): First of all, well done for sticking by her through this, especially as the relationship is so young.
It sounds like your girlfriend is seriously depressed - I'm not surprised you feel out of your depth. This sounds far too big for either of you to handle on your own - I would seriously recommend seeking professional help to guide her through this. I'm not sure what the system of referral is in America, but try going to see your doctor, or looking up counseling services - but be careful that you see a professional, as some 'counselors' and 'therapists' call themselves such without any formal qualifications.
Good luck, you have all my sympathy and respect,
Christine
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): It is all a simple equation. Crying girls need security and satisfaction in love. BF are filled with uncontrollable urge to shoot their cum in a pussy. This is not possible in marriage, which soon becomes routine. lever girls now have learnt from true stories and sex pictures on computer to find a hubby with solid income and good at heart. Men tend to flirt with women to kiss them and lick their boobs and pussy. They don't do this with wife. Wife too satisfies her sex from he nearest available men in the family. Flirtation takes precedence on routine love. This has given rise to sex in families. Mothers teach daughters tohave sex with siblings which becomes a life long relationship. Oldies lose interest in penetrating sex and seduce preteen babes by giving them money and gifts. these 8/9 year girls get exuted by rubbing their clitoris and licking their pussy. One need not rape preteen innocent girls. Instead they willingly provide oral sex to uncles and old-age persons. They would look at a cock, especially withot erection, and lick them in the mouth. That makes oldies to empty their load in towels and girls are told to keep it a secret. Computer teaches these kids to becomelesbiabs and to entice boys to lick each other's sexual parts. When they grow up mother teach daughters to chase affluent men for marriage. Experience taught them to beware daughters that men do little in sex but make hurry to shoot their cumin the pussy. Outsidethese men flirt with available women and kiss them hard and fondle boobs. Wome left hungry by husband likewise flirt with easily available men who give them kisses and arouse their sex. This is a simple story. There are clubs where married couples swap wife and enjoy sex with friends' spuses. Nothing wrong as long as safe sex is carried out. Sex finds ways to get satisfied. Let us exchange emails. Mine is: [email address blocked]
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reader, GemmaPemma  +, writes (15 January 2008):
Your not selfish for thinking about yourself, when ever someone needs help like this you need to be in the right mind yourself before your able to help anyone else, have you considered going with her to speak to her gp, she may need treatment/medication and maybe she needs to see a theorpist as you can only give her hope on current issues, she may need to dig a little deeper and clear up some past issues.
good luck,
Gemma!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (15 January 2008):
 If she is being stressed and unhappy about her job, she need to talk to the management about it (hopefully transfer to another department)or if it does not work , she will need to switch to another job to remove the source of her stress.
If nothing is done , she may regressed and become worse. Taking those anti depressants is only a short term remedy .When she is stressed , it will affect every facet of her life.
My suggestions is for her to take some medical leave or to change her job.
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reader, Fionaisme  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 Heya, i think you should try as much as you can to be there for your girlfriend. It is obvious that she is depressed and i think you ahould encourage her to seek some help. I dont mean to sound mean here but if she refuses to talk to somebody else your relationship may not work as she will be dragging you down aswell. I know your girlfriend is depressed and all but you deserve to be in a relationship with somebody who is able to commit fully. All in all i think you should say it to her gently that you'd really like if she saw somebody about how she is feeling because number one
you dont think you are qualified to give her all the strength she needs and number two because you really care about her and hate seeing her this way. Emphasise that you will be there every step of the way and just pray that things will get better for ouy both. Hope this helps.
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