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*evin123
writes:Ok, I really need help here. I've known this girl through somebody else for a couple months, never really talked too much or hung out. now she's moved into another place near me and we've been hanging out. So I like her and I'm pretty sure she likes me. My problem is that I have ADD and anxiety, and my anxiety is so bad these last couple day just thinking about her that I haven't eaten. I can only eat a few bites of food a day. I think I'm worried about everything from sexual performance, to not having anything to say on a date, to not being to go on a dinner date due to this anxiety. I just don't know where to go from here so please help.
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reader, Ask and you shall receive..(well,ill try my best) +, writes (3 August 2010):
 I really understand what you're feeling! i suffer from high anxiety levels also; but don't worry there are plenty of things that i do to get rid of it:
1) go jogging/work out/swim and get rid of all that extra anxiety levels in your body.-i do this :)its extremely helpful!
2) You can try listening to relaxing tapes/calm music - i don't really like them- but u might:)
3) I started seeing a psychologist to help me uncover why i have so much stress and anxiety in me, and i was skeptical at first but after a while it helped talking to some1 about it.
4) u can always try to go to your doctor or pharmacist and they can help you out with anti-anxiety pills- you might find mild ones (like the ones I'm taking)that you may not even need a prescription for. But always check with your doctor 1st!
and Lastly... eat! and drink water! i know how it controls your appetite, but you hav to force yourself to eat something.
Good Luck :)
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reader, TimmD +, writes (3 August 2010):
 I don't want to sound insensitive to any conditions you may have, but these are all normal feelings we all go through in the world of dating. Sometimes it just comes down to considering the alternative... which is NOT talking to her or asking her out. It sounds like you have feelings for her, so I think it would be worse not having her around, right?
Try to keep it simple. What are you comfortable doing? What places do you like to go? Where do you like to eat? Remember, this isn't a blind date. She's been talking to you so obviously she likes you. You don't have to be anybody else besides yourself. And as far as sexual performance? Dude... slow down! One step at a time. Have some dinner, see a movie... do that a few times and if the time finally comes for sex, believe me... it'll be easier.
Take it slow, and just be yourself.
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