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female
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30-35,
*herry91
writes:Hi everyone,I've only been with my boyfriend for around 9 or 10 months. He has a slight problem with jealousy, I can recall plenty of times he's gotten really upset about my past relationships and hook ups (which I've hardly had any of either) and a few weeks ago he dumped me simply because I kissed a guy on a night out. This happened a long time before I even met him! I always seem to have an uneasy feeling about him. I'm scared to death that I'm gonna end up hurt and I keep trying to tell myself that everybody with a significant other can feel like this and it's just a risk you have to take to be able to enjoy a relationship, but I get so stressed and worried and upset that he's going to turn around and hurt me some day. He occassionally checks my phone and my e-mails. I haven't done this to him as I can't honestly say that he's given me a solid reason not to trust him, but the paranoia and jealousy from his side kind of scares me, not to mention the fact that I basically have zero self confidence. I'm pretty sure this is where the uneasiness about him comes from. If he doesn't trust me then can I really trust him? And is this relationship just bad for me? I wouldn't say we argue alot but when we do it is usually about the same thing, ie that there isn't much trust in the relationship. But anyway i'm sick of stressing about him all the time and sometimes feeling down simply because I'm with him. We do have our good times but should I stay with somebody who blatantly doesn't trust me just to see if it gets any better? Or would I be better off walking away? Thanks for reading this xx
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 All guys get jealous, some a lil. Sounds like this guy is fishing for a reason to end your relatiobship. If he doesnt trust you then why is he with you? He's being petty and very insecure..and if its starting to make u question yourself and lower your confidence then kick him to the curb. No one likes an overly jealous boyfriend..
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