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female
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41-50,
renee09
writes:I have been involved with a man who was 17 years older than me. We met when I was 20 years old and he was 37. In the beginning everything was great and he had a way of making me feel I was the only woman in the world. I got a lot of stares and people talking, but I didn't care, I loved him. At the time I was just so tired of how the young guys were treating me that I thought it was maybe a maturity issue so I thought I had found a way to somehow bypass all of that and get straight to being loved, and treated the way I wanted with no interference by dating an older man. When I met him he seemed so nice and I just knew that this was it and I don't have to worry about anything else. Maybe this was my chance to have a man who really knew how to treat a woman and I just knew I couldn't go wrong because he was an older guy. I wanted to also show him that I too was different and I wasn't after him for his money. Ii actually was here for love and that's something that can't be bought. I showed him that you don't have to pay someone to be with you or feel that you have to try harder just because of your age. He would tell me things like like "I have never met a woman like you." he made me feel so good. Soon everything changed and the lies started coming and the names started being called. The whole time while I was boosting his self-esteem he was doing everything in his power to break me down. I felt as if that was his only goal after a while. He started emotionally abusing me, calling me "useless and worthless." after a while he broke me down so bad that I actually started believing it. I didn't recognize myself any more and I really didn't recognize him any more. See I made the mistake of believing that just because he was older he would be more mature and more careful with my heart. I soon learned that age is nothing but a number and just because they are older it doesn't mean they are automatically wiser, more mature, and will treat you better than someone your own age because you might just find out that "the grass isn't greener on the other side." Now I'm not telling you that all older people are like this, I'm just telling you my experience. My advice is to let you know you should go in to any relationship no matter the age by having realistic expectations, knowing what you yourself want out of person, recognize the signs of a person who isn't equipped to give you what you need, and know when to give up and move on. Trust me you don't want to make the same mistake I did. I hope these tips help with your journey in finding a good, and healthy relationship. Good Luck
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