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writes:Ok, so me and my boyfriend that I lost my virginity to have been together off and on for 2 years. We recently broke up for 7 months and just got back together. About 3 months before we got back together he had gotten a girl pregnant. He claims he doesn't love her and really didn't even think it was his baby. When we decided to get back together I was just so happy to be with him again that I didn't really even think about the baby thing. I just kept telling myself "its probably not his." Well now it's getting more serious and the nerves and doubt in my relationship are eating me alive. With all of this going on I'm finding it hard to trust him. He has lied to me about this girl. For example he lied about a pair of shoes she bought him by telling me he bought them. I didn't even ask about the shoes. Do you think he's in denial of something? With everything going on should I just let go? I just love him so much it's so hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for replying. I have sat down and talked with him about this. Things have gotten a lot better. He says he used a condom with her and they only had sex twice so the question about whether its his baby or not is still there. But were learning to cope.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 November 2008):
He could just be trying to reassure you by telling white lies.
However, the problem remains that he could be the father of a child.
Get him to talk to this girl and agree to a DNA test when the baby is born.
I know you love him but are you prepared to put up with him being there for this other girl and his baby?
It's very easy to say "oh it probably isn't mine" but what if any proof does he have that this girl was going off with other men - or is calling her a slut just making it easier to get back with you.
You should also get yourself tested for STDs since he's obviously been having unprotected sex with other girls.
Good Luck!! xx
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