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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months.I love him alot but he doesnt give me any space at all!He always wants me to be by his side every second of the day or on the phone with him.He doesnt give me space to meet my other friends or some time to myself.He always wants me and I am sick of that.If i ask him for space he calls me selfish and yells at me.I do love him but I need space.What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): “There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me... or leave me. Accept me - or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don't fit your idea of who I should be and don't try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Ugh I used to date a guy like this. He was so clingy. The reality is you are not selfish, what he is doing is selfish! By being clingy and in constant need of your attention he is ONLY thinking of himself. He has not once stopped to think of your needs. So do not let him convince you otherwise.
Look I dated a clingy guy for a while. He had me pretty manipulated into feeling like he was a great guy with great intentions and I too felt selfish and ungrateful whenever I wanted to just breath. Just get away from him. And frankly, if I could do it over again I would have never stayed with him for as long as I did. I was with him for three years. It felt like three years wasted.
Guys like that aren't going to change and will offer very little emotional value to you and your relationship. Get out while you are still young. You deserve better.
Go hang with your friends and meet a guy who respects your space, your boundaries, your alone time, time with friends. A guy who is looking to compliment your life not invade it and suffocate it. Don't feel bad for this fool (that is their tactic to make you stay). Don't feel bad. He is not treating you right. Be strong. Good luck.
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reader, oneguy  +, writes (29 December 2010):
Nobody can yell at you. Tell your boyfriend to behave like a man and stop being clingy. And tell him to watch his voice. Insulting a woman by calling her selfish is not chivalrous. At all. Once more he calls you selfish, tell him you'll finish this off. I don't like that word and I don't like your boyfriend if he indeed called you that, to be very straight with you. If there is no respect it cannot be love.
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