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41-50,
*alleyrb
writes:Hi I am 8 weeks pregnant i have a condition called rhesus disease which means my blood is attacking my baby and i might have to have blood transfusions to the baby while it is inside me. My partner is an alcoholic he is never violent but can be self destructive when stressfull situations occur. He hasnt reacted well to me being pregnant at first we suspected it was ectopic and were in and out of hospital he was great really supportive but when we found out the baby was ok he asked me to termintate. I have been in and out of hospital having blood tests speaking to doctors and trying to find out more about my condition and also watching my partner falling apart. He changed his mind four times saying he wants us to keep the baby and then crying and saying he doesnt. I decided I wanted to keep it and when I told him he had drunk a bottle of whiskey he slit his wrist in front of me and ended up in a police cell for the night. It scared him alot and with help from the doctors he has been dry for four days now with help from medication and is regularly seeing a counceller. However he is still saying he cant cope and is worried if we go through with this pregnancy he will return to drinking as it will be very stressful. any advice would be fantastic
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): Do any of you women out there know what`s like to be told that you have no choice in your future? With or with out your unborn child!??? None of you know what you`re talking about calling him a freak and telling her to leave him. Sounds like he had problems before the issue of a unplanned child was brought up!??
If he is an alcoholic, then he will react in a differnt way to most people, alcohol does strange things to peoples heads, do any of you know why he is in to alcohol?????? Or what it`s like???
If not, then for you to say those things is not giving calleyrb any sound advise.....! If he is trying to get help then give the guy a break! its not easy feeling like you have no control over something/one(a baby!!!!!!) that is half yours and you have no say atal!!!!! At the end of the day it is the womans decision whether she keeps it! With out any say from the dad/bf/husband/one night stand!
Or what ever.... just a note say say don`t be so quick to give advice that you all know nothing about, men have feelings too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): If he gets wasted & cuts his wrist open when you tell him you're keeping the baby, what is he going to do when he sees the baby, try & cut it's head off? He is a psycho freak. I can understand him being scared but come on..this is insane behavior & I suggest you get out now & protect your baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): I say get rid of him. If you have a termination you might regret it, plus if you ever wanted to have kids in the future you could face the same dilema. You and your baby don't need the extra stress.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 October 2007):
 Oh my god have you not got enough on your plate without having to deal with all his emotional blackmail, how dare he say to you that you having the baby will make him return to drink.
You do not need this kind of behaviour in your pregnancy as it is not good for you or the baby.
How do you feel about him? do you really love him? do you really want to be with someone that will ultimately try and make you chose between himself and your unborn baby?
Take care.xx.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (14 October 2007):
Press on and do the best you can for the baby. Don't expect your bf to be a great daddy whose happy ever after.
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