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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:What the hell am I doing? I was cheated on by my ex for a girl he sees twice a month and i left him. To make it worse,i still see him every couple of months and we always end up in bed. But to be honest, I am still very hurt of what he did, I stopped asking about the girl if they are still together or not but I feel sometimes they are not. Because whenever I contact my ex, he would come so fast to see me, anytime, any day.Just recently, I have started to see a friend of mine whom I have met last year. He's actually been asking me to be his gf but I have refused him as I was still into my ex and that I felt I cannot love for a while. Then he met a girl a month ago and they became a couple. This sealed our friendship and we promised ourselves we will be friends no matter what. He sent me pics of his girl and even introduced me to her online. Then two weeks ago, he invited me for a drink at a bar and unfortunately, we ended up in bed. Now he keeps calling me whether online or call. I told him he has a gf and he said, he knew me first, loved me first and he will leave her for me. I don't know what to do. I haven't asked him to break up with her coz I am not sure I love him. I don't want the girl to leave. But now I am unable to refuse him. I cannot understand why I am doing this knowing that my ex had done this to me with another girl. But to be honest, I feel like this guy is my ex and that his gf was that girl my ex cheated me with. And that I am doing justice to what has been done to me.To make it more complicated, everytime I am with this guy, my ex calls to see me and I have refused him already, I am also feeling guilty that I am seeing a new man now.I know it's wrong, why do I feel this way and how do I mend this. Can someone give me advise?
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reader, Griffonne +, writes (23 July 2010):
Girl! What are you doing to yourself?
Your boyfriend cheated on you, hurt you, but you still jump in bed whenever he ask you to. Don't you have any self esteem?
Now, you have a great friend who is in a relationship with another girl after you rejected him and jump in bed with him too. You were hurt to be cheated on but are doing it to that other girl. Bravo!
IMO you need time to sort yourself. If you enjoy jumping in bed with random people, that's fine but stay away from relationships until you know what you want. You are confuse and angry with yourself because you realize that you made bad choices. Break the pattern.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): your ex is a asshole! drop him like a bad habit. hes done it too you already now hes doing this to other girl with you. if you take him back he'll just do it all over again
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (30 June 2010):
I don't even need to read your entire reply to tell you where you have gone wrong! you ok what he does to you so hell he will keep on doing it! he's not the one really who has a problem but kinda sorta? hes right in your face w/ it and you crawl back in bed with them.
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