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writes:I have taken a dating "break" for way too long.I was dating someone for 6 mos,and he was clearly a bad match for me. I got over HIM in just a month or two, I am just completely burned out on dating! I have lost all my interest to put myself out there right now.I took a break from dating for two reasons:I am a single Mom and my kids were BOTH going thru big crisis. Their Dad is barely in the picture right now, so I am the primary parent and a lot is on my shoulders.I closed down my online dating profile, because the quality of men responding to me was dissapointing. (Unemployed, looking for a sexual conquest, looking for a therapist, etc.) I found most of the men interested in me to be draining in one way or another.I just feel like I SHOULD be dating again..I just do not WANT to! I miss companionship and sex (I am not a FWB kind of woman-I tried and failed!)Any motivation or encouragement is appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): Theres nothing wrong with being single, beats doing something daft to fit in with the 'couples' world
When your a single mum its hard being just a woman, rather than a mum. Maybe thats what your missing? Its also tiring keeping busy and having hundreds of hobbies - expensive too!
That said its usually when we are going about our daily lives that somebody pops up, maybe they're already in your phone?
Just keep smiling, healthy and upbeat - your right not to settle for those who want something from you, you need fun and spoiling - somebody who cares - hope you find him x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): does it help to know youre not alone? lol ive met men from online as well, and i hear what youre saying. i hope youre not giving up, because there ARE some good guys out there. and if nothing else, the bad ones are entertaining!! ive also made some new friends. i am a single mom as well. one thing i have learned, and i hope this is helpful...as far as companionship goes, having someone to do things with, to hang out with, i find that in other people ie; my kids, my family, my friends. we share laughs, outings, even friday night candlelights! (during which we laugh even more lol)when theres noone available to do things with, i do things "I" enjoy, whether its doing a thrift store, watching a good movie, going for a walk. its very true what "they" say, you have to find ways to keep yourself busy/mind occupied. another thing i do is flirt with everyone. most of the time wherever i am, shopping, running errands etc,im talking to strangers, asking questions, complimenting someone, just plain striking up conversations.ive learned some pretty interesting things from complete strangers lol. and EVERY time i leave the house working or otherwise i wear what makes me feel good, cause then i DO feel good, and im able to embrace whatever comes into my day....even men! i get bored with one site, i look for another, but im always out and about doing something, USUALLY not with a man, and thats fine too. nobody can tell you you SHOULD be dating, if you dont want to, dont. just focus on YOU, "BE" YOU, and dont worry about it. once you practice being single its really not that bad! and who knows who's watching.....
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