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male
age
36-40,
*jekim
writes:I’ve been dealing with a recurring challenge in my quest to find a romantic partner, and I’m seeking some guidance on how to navigate it.To provide some context, I’m a 35-year-old, black male, 5’9, who has never been in a romantic relationship. While I’ve been described as kind and nice by many, I’ve encountered obstacles that seem to hinder my dating prospects. Firstly, I work at a comic book shop, and although I’m passionate about my job and aspire to become a comic artist, it’s not perceived as a financially stable or attractive career path by some. Additionally, I currently live with my mother, a decision I made to manage my student loan debt while contributing to household expenses and responsibilities.Recently, I’ve been informed that my lack of dating history is a cause for concern for some individuals. I’ve even been labeled as an incel, which is both hurtful and bewildering to me. I genuinely desire to explore romantic connections and have made efforts to put myself out there. However, I’ve encountered consistent patterns where the individuals I’m interested in either lose interest, are unavailable for dating, or view me solely as a friend.Despite attending events like comic conventions, where I hope to meet like-minded individuals, I’ve faced similar challenges. Many women I encounter at these events are either already in relationships or uninterested in forming friendships. I’ve also attempted the approach of befriending someone first, but often find that once they enter a romantic relationship, our connection fades away.I’m reaching out to seek advice on how to overcome these hurdles. Are there specific places or activities I should explore to meet potential partners who share my interests? Is there a particular approach I should consider adopting? Additionally, I wonder if my age and lack of dating experience are contributing factors to my struggles.Any insights or suggestions you can provide would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time and consideration.
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