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writes:Hi guys, ok here is the thing, i have a big china wall infront of me when it comes to starting conversation with a girl.We are talking a wall up to the sky,i feel like my brain is just empty , nothing there i cant come up with a single word when i want to approach, i mean i can say like "Hi , my name is bla bla" but then what :S ?.I dont know how many times im out with friends in clubs and stuff and i see cute girls that id like to go talk to or what ever but ya... i just cant i just physically and mentally cant, fear of rejection, unconfident and not knowing what to say to her.So i really need help, im 20 years old, i am very nice guy my looks are average and so on, the problem is my own confidence, i have those thoughts in my head im not good enough, i mean if a good looking girl would come up to me and show interest... im pretty pretty dam sure i will have those thoughts "ok im not good enough "But i guess the problem with confidence could go away if i had just slight progress with a girl, JUST slight :S.I am of-course a virgin and that plays huge part of my confidence being low , well couse im a virgin and in these times if your a virgin at 20 there is something wrong with you or something... and thats what you start to think aswell i guess, so all of it has just built up and made me a pretty depressed, sad, ridiculously frustrated guy :( , shame couse i would really like to have a girl in my life, and id try my best to make her as much happy as i could :S (cheesy but ... )So pleas anyone HELP, i really do need help, its getting frustrating , ive been on forums and everything for 2-3 years now trying to get help but i just havent been able to break through and do anything, i just need some advices on connection between girl and a buy, - First i guess to start a convo with a girl in a party, club or any places people at my age meet.- then i guess what kind of topics girls love to talk about, and so on.- and then i think i need some self-confidence type of stuff help. I am sorry for a long post , but im really bad at doing these things because i have so much on my mind so im just spilling everything out at once and the post might come out very childish and un-formal.Thanks, love you all on this site, one of the best sites out there :)
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reader, ShyGuy12345 +, writes (28 September 2010):
ShyGuy12345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much, im trying to get more self esteem up , so im trying to do some training to make myself feel better , going into Mixed Marshal Arts and im thinking of doins something more , if you guys have any typs for some nice and fun stuff i can get into, just so i can fill mylife with something fun and so on :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): There is absolutely nothing wrong with the fact that you are a virgin. You are also more than good enough for any girl out there. :) I have a lot of guy friends...never really had any girl friends...so I know guys pretty well. To start a conversation with a girl make sure first that you are approaching a girl you see yourself with...and just because some girl is drop dead gorgeous doesnt mean that you are not HOT enough for her. You are. All you need to do is hold your head up and don't act like a douchebag. Honestly, good guys are the only ones worht being with anyway because the bad ones...the cocky ones...only want sex and usually hurt girls eventually. I think you just need a confidence booster for real. Go get a haircut or go jogging...do something that makes you feel good about yourself. :):) An more questions just email me!!! Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Hi well firstly can i say just because you are a virgin at 20 doesnt make there something wrong with you, in fact alot of girls would really respect this. I no it must be difficult for you as you have this anxiety but only you can make your confidence grow maybe take small steps say hello ask girls how they are then make just start off by asking them if they are having a good night and what they do for a living, take it in small steps and soon you will come out of your shell. You need to work on your self image to help with your self asteem if you feel good about yourself you will soon start becoming confident. start by positive thinking, this will help you become more positive when it comes to girls tell yourself i can do this. The more you say it the more you will start to believe it. hope this has helped, good luck hunny.
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