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51-59,
*hinachik
writes:I have been in a relationship with a great guy who I met online since April. We live about an hour apart and he lives on base so it's difficult to see each other because of his job in the RAF. Since we have been together he has had to go on operations for a month and then his father had a stroke and he had to go and be with his family for 3 weeks which has been hard. I have been patient, supportive and understanding and always let him I am there for him which I know he appreciates.The thing is that although we keep in touch via texts most days- it's hard to know what to say. He doesent tell me what is going on - he tells me he misses me and can't wait to see me but I never know when this is so sometimes I make plans and find it hard to break plans to meet him. One time he asked me to take 2 days holiday to spend with him- but he only spent one of the days with me. When I asked him what happened he said he got emotional had a few drinks and fell asleep? I don't really understand what is going on and would appreciate any advice I can get on my situation. I know it's a communication issue, and I don't know how to ask him what is going on without coming across as being emotional and having him withdraw further than he does already. He always replies back eventually but without addressing what was said- when we are together we don't talk about it because
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): I'm sorry to be so negative, but it sounds to me like he's stringing you along and you're making excuses for his actions. I say this because I've been in a similar situation and I know now that I was justifying what he was doing and really being stupid, to put it bluntly.
I could be wrong of course and I hope I am. You should really look at the situation from the outside if you can. Pretend it was your friend telling you this situation and see what would you think.
I hope I'm wrong for your sake because a broken heart just sucks.
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