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writes:Well I'm not sure about ask but I can't handle anymore so. I'm 21 years old at collage. I fell in love with a man. He is straight so he kindly refused me and tried to keep our friendship. I was madly in love and had panic disorder at that time. I pushed my luck so much and he ended our friendship.I said I don't interested in him anymore. After that summer come and at vocation I get well. Stop taking pills for panic disorder and get back to collage at September. So far we didn't sepak any word until end of the January. Me, him and some friends go to the game salloon and I wasn't know how to play billard so he suggcest and show some ways to hit the ball. But the spring break come over. We back to school on Monday and he just ignoring me again. I feel sorry about it but more than that seeing him still makes me wanna cry and say him I still love him. I know I can't and I really wanna be friends again. I can't change my school or class so can't he too. I started to show some symptomes for panic attacks again and it just can't be again. How can I get over him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): Thank you very much. I just wanted to be friends again but it looks like it will make me miserable again so I'll give up on friendship also love. And also thanks for sharing your experiment. It feels better when you know-or remind- that you're not alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2013): I had a strong feelings for someone for the longest time, but unfortunately for me, it was only ever platonic (the screaming nooooo at the sky, and shaking fists). I thought about him often and much, I couldn't even read credits in movies without seeing his first name and feeling a jolt inside of me. I finally moved past him by busying myself with other things, and not allowing myself to think about him. I would read books, and pursue other things, never letting my mind be idle. I also got a group of friends around me who were supportive and wouldn't allow me to think about him. Eventually the feelings I had faded (took me a few years), but then I moved on, moved away and found my special someone. When it comes to relationships of the unrequited type, the best you can do, is mourn the loss of a friendship and lost love (even if it was never returned), and then put it behind you. By constantly allowing yourself to think about it, it will stir feelings of anxiety and make you miserable, and don't be misconstrued when I say "allow yourself to think about it" because it's hard not to think about him. It takes willpower and the want to move on, but I believe you can do it.
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