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writes:hey im courtney. im 16 an my boyfriends 19. we have been together for 3 years and he told me that he is going into the marines. im going to support him all the way, but i am going to find it very hard. how do i cope? im finding it hard already and he hasn't left to do his training yet. ive been looking at other marine girlfriends/wives comments and getting engaged and married is what majority of the girls/women have said. im not sure what to do.? he lives at my house he has done for the past year we have spent every day together. i knew he has always wanted to be in the marines but 2 1/2 years into our relationship he has gone for it.if anybody has any answers i will be grateful for some support and any answers that will help me get through this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2014): I speak from experience of watching my sister go through the same thing when her boyfriend joined the navy.
At the end of the day, there is nothing you can do, he has made up his mind, it's what he wants to do and you have your own life to worry about.
When he arrives at training, he will go through some of the hardest activities in his life, this far at least. The forces are extremely difficult, it's no walk in the park. But at the same time, the forces are like a 'lads holiday' in the words of one of my best friends who serves in the army. They go out drinking, spend all their money, and live a single life. Whether you or any other partner to someone in the forces likes it or not, the single lads will egg on the others, and everyone folds and has a good time, it's just fun and they're all young. But it's a fact that a lot of relationships don't last in the forces due to the lengthy times spent apart and the inability to trust one another.
The best thing you can do right now, doll, is just sit back and ride the wave. Don't worry about him being away, you'll get used to your own time and space and eventually you'll enjoy it again, you've got your education to worry about and he has his training. Avoid arguments at all cost because he will also have to sit exams and tests that if he fails, could bounce him back a class and he'll be there longer. Just enjoy the time you have together now and then try to put some time into yourself again.
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