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*saree Arkkaravorapitak
writes: What should I do when my brother is changing towards me?I'm eighteen years old. I have two brothers. My first brother is 14 years old and my second brother 12 years old. Two days ago, I quarrel with my first brother. The situation happened when I was reading a book for an exam but my brother wanted to watch a television. So we quarrelled. We didn't agree, then I turned off the television but my brother turned on it again and he became aggressive. He pushed me down and cursed at me. My brother has never done it before.From the situation, I'm sorry very much. I try to think my brother's aggressiveness is just because of his being a teenager. I and my brother don't talk to for two days now. I don't know what to do. What should I do with changing behavior of my brother? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sick with worry  +, writes (23 February 2011):
Your book can be moved somewhere else but he can only watch tv n that room. Even if you were inconsiderate there is no excuse for physical violence. Your parents need to make sure your home is safe. You both were right and wrong at the same time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): it is very easy to dismiss such behaviour as 'siblings just being siblings' or 'kids fight at that age, don't they?' or even 'he's a boy he'll grow out of it', just keep an eye and if he doesn't change, then action must be taken, from a first hand experience, I know too well the implications that such a problem can cause at a later age. good luck
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reader, becky05 +, writes (19 July 2005):
His behaviour is probably due to his age, but it is not acceptable.
Tell him he must NEVER be physically violent with you again.
If he is, tell your parents, hes not such a big man he wont still be scared of mummy and daddy!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (19 July 2005):
 I think your brother is reaching adolescence and is having trouble dealing with the increased hormone levels he's experiencing. Age 14 is a very difficult year for some boys because the sudden surge of testosterone can have effects like you describe.
However, you're the adult here. You need to set a good example, so that things don't get out of hand and end up physical.
When there's a disagreement, you need to walk away before it becomes an argument. Tell your brother that's what you're doing so that you discreetly point out his behaviour to him: "I'm leaving now. I won't waste time arguing about this." No quarrel over a noisy TV is worth the risk of getting hurt!
As an adult, you also need to speak to your parents in an adult way and explain that your brother is becoming a physical danger to people, so that they can take appropriate action. This is not the same as "tattling". If you explain what has happened in a neutral tone of voice, and tell them the facts only, you are doing everyone in the household a favour. Remember that if your brother is pushing you around, there's a good chance that he may also be bullying your younger brother.
This stage will pass in your brother's life, but it's very important that he doesn't assume that everyone will give him his way just because he gets angry. That's why you need to enlist the help of your parents too.
Good luck.
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