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*atiehenderson
writes:I am too emotionally attached to my boyfriend.?I feel my world would come crashing down if we broke up for any reason. He is a great guy and the only problem is his bad temper. But I feel I am too attached to him to be able to live independent of him emotionally. We have been together for 4 years now. I laugh or cry at the snap of his fingers and I feel like my world revolves around him. How do I learn to be independent and regain my individuality
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (24 April 2011):
 To feel that your 'world would come crashing down' if you broke up, is an unhealthy dependance. Your great guy might have a temper because people generally don't like to be THAT relied upon, it can be very frustrating, and suffocating, for him if you are revolving your entire world around him. You need to see a professional and get some counselling and guidance in how to find yourself again. You won't be happy with anyone, until you can be happy with your self.
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reader, krit +, writes (23 April 2011):
 It is called obsession. Many people suffer from it. But it is not attractive at all. The dance of seduction is performed with one step forward and then two steps back. If you want to keep him intersted in a long run and don't want to loose him than you have to do the same. Being an obsessive lover is not healthy for both of you. Try to change yourself.
Stop spending too much time with him and keep yourself busy with some work. I know it could be difficult but as I said before you have do this if not for you then for him. Otherwise you would add yourself in clingy and needy list and this would cause him to drift apart and demand more space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2011): i was in a similar relationship a few yrs ago, he was a great guy but he had a bad temper, a kicked him out many times but kept takin him back when ever he apologised, one day a thought a cant keep doing this, so a went to womans aid and they made me see sense and supported me and i ended the relationship because it was unhealthy and damaging to me as a person, i ended it, dont get me wrong it was tough but it was the best choice i ever made, times a great healer, uve got to be strong and make the right choice, it does get easier, believe me, you dont need any guy and thats a fact, if your not truly happy then you need to get out for your sake, all the best x
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