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writes: I was, until recently, going with a friend from work, against my better judgement to seeing someone I worked with. But he was very persistent, and wouldn't take no for answer, so I agreed to go out for a drink with him, and we got on really well. We began seeing each other. It was fun and intimate as we already knew so much about each other. But last week he told me he saw his ex-girlfriend and admitted he still had feelings for her, but he didn't want to get back with her because she cheated on him. so his head's in a bit of a mess. He was very upset when he told me, he feared we would lose our friendship, so I told him he should do what makes him happy and I won't hold it against him and I will always be his friend. But I'm so angry and upset but unable to show it at work, so everyone carries on as normal, except I feel like a fool. I'm angry with myself for putting myself in that situation when I should've known better not to date someone from work, least of all a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2005): Look, you learned a life lesson and there is really nothing you can do to make yourself feel better. You made a poor choice-it's over-quit beating yourself up over this.
Mistakes are a part of life. We all make mistakes, but the real mistake is not to learn from them. Each person reacts to mistakes differently, but it's natural to feel angry and disappointed when we use poor judgement. While these are normal responses, some of us criticize and belittle themselves for our mistakes longer than necessary, which can be so counterproductive to personal growth. It really drags a person down. Tame your inner critic. Learn to accept being wrong without suffering or experiencing this unessesary self-abuse. Accept this guy is a co-worker...you cannot change that. In time..this will be a thing od the past. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and never let yesterday use up too much of today. Hugs, Irish
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