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My wife wants a threesome with my co worker

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Question - (6 December 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 7 December 2010)
A male United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I am a bisexual man who has been married to a wonderful woman for 14 years. I am also having a sexual relationship with a man I work with. My wife knows about this relationship, but now she wants to join us for a threesome. I think this is wrong, but she says it will turn her on. What should I do?

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (7 December 2010):

Tisha-1 agony auntMaybe she's hoping the other guy will give her pleasure? I guess the real question is why you think we will be able to tell you what she's thinking. We can only guess. She can tell you why it would work from her perspective. Isn't it hers that counts, after all?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010):

I am the original poster of this question. I guess the issue I have with it is my wife is a completely nonsexual person. She has never received pleasure from sex although I think she enjoys pleasing me. So, you see, I don't see the point.

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A female reader, xanthic United States +, writes (6 December 2010):

xanthic agony auntWhat exactly is it about this situation you think is wrong? Is it the fact that you'd have to share your wife with someone else, in the same way she has to share you?

Being uncomfortable with the idea is one thing, but to think it's wrong when you're freely sleeping with another person outside of your marriage? That's a bit ridiculous.

If you're really opposed to the idea, I suppose the only option is to let her know you're not into it. See if she'd like to try something else that only involves you and her.

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A female reader, Ryzar United States +, writes (6 December 2010):

well, it depends on your morale. if your coworker wants to, and your wife oes as well as you, go ahead. if you dont want to then dont.

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A female reader, Mjfbla United States +, writes (6 December 2010):

Mjfbla agony auntSo you are allowed to sleep around as you choose but she isnt. Why would it be wrong? your doing whatever you want sexually so why cant she. If she wants to have a 3some its probably to be included in ur life. its hard for a woman to share her husband regardless of the situation

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010):

I'm curious here, how you justify being in a marriage and yet screwing around with someone else?

Most people tend to dislike having this done.

If you and your wife are so open, why even bother being married? An open relationship is not the vow you take.

I have nothing against casual encounters and open relationships, but marriage is to be treated with much more respect.

In my eyes, when you take an oath to be with that person, and ONLY that person until you die or divorce, you damn well mean it and live up to it.

Flynn 24

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